I am a step-mother to 3 children and have been married to my husband for less than a year. We have the children a little less than 50% of the time. I was previously married, but I do not have any bio-children of my own and I do not believe that I will. I did date my husband several years before we got married and I knew that this life would be very challenging, but some days it can be almost unbearable and not because of the children, mostly it is because of the children's BM. Trying to work with her is sometimes almost close to impossible.