The disengaging is a double-edged sword post kinda hit me hard. So easy to not text but then you get a polite text, so I respond. Then, the visiting issue... it really is easier to attend then to have DH, MIL, SS and SD all upset at you. The thing is, I feel like complete s!!!! When they visit because there's soooo much focus on DH, it actually makes me feel like I'm going to run out at any moment.... I'm not good at being ok when I have to be around them all... it just in my gut feels bad, wrong, against who I am along with feeling mostly (except politely) ignored...is there like a secret portal all of us unhappy SPs can escape to when this is going on? If not, someone seriously needs to create one!