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Submitted by Stepmom in Maryland on Fri, 12/28/2018 - 9:54pm

Creative punishment needed for 15 year old kid!

We have tried just about everything we can think of.  He stores plates and cups in his room. He  takes the time to stash them in his drawers, in suitcases, under the cabinet in the bathroom, in the entertainment center downstairs ... I could go on.   But won’t drop them in the sink or in the dishwasher. Father asked him to clean his bathroom before he left to go visit his ‘mom’ in Texas for four days for holidays.  Lazy ass didn’t clean bathroom AT ALL.  Lazy ass poured milk down the bathroom sink, didn’t bother to open stopper or rinse it and it had been left there so long it had turned to cottage cheese!!!  Tub- disgusting, toilet - science experiment.  I refused to touch it, I refused to help clean it. His lazy ass son, his problem.  The father called up lazy ass and blasted that kid like I have never heard before. Grounded, blah, blah, blah. Told lazy ass that he has used up all of his good will and he wasn’t going to like what is headed his way!  FINALLY!!! So, now, I’m in need of a creative punishment to suggest to dear old dad to hand down.  This kid has had all electronics taken away - doesn’t seem to work.  Has been made to carry EACH cup and plate in his room up and down the stairs 5 times each - carry downstairs to kitchen, put in sink. Take out of sink and back to bedroom-  didn’t work. Has been grounded - doesnt work. I need something EPIC.   Ready? GO!   Thanks in advance! 

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Gucci's picture

Submitted by Gucci on Fri, 12/28/2018 - 10:37pm

Following! 

Maybe picking up dog shit? Cleaning baseboards? Cleaning grout with a toothbrush? 

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Fri, 12/28/2018 - 10:55pm

I think the punishment needs to fit the crime and SS should clean everything he messed up for the rest of the year!  Maybe have retired military person , hard ass type,  oversee him in the training phase.  I'd also clean his room, and leave only a bed, and the basic things needed to live his life.  Take his door off the hinge too.  He gets no privacy and no extas to take care off.  I certainly hope he doesn't get to enjoy fun stuff with the family,  Those should be earned, not given freely.  The little shit has no respect for your house, epic parenting failure.  Things need to change permanently, not just a punishment that's over.  

At 15 you need to fine out what his currency is and use that.  Google "The Total Transformation".  

Rags would suggest sentences written in perfect handwriting and turning him into your chore bitch.    

Harry's picture

Submitted by Harry on Sat, 12/29/2018 - 1:17am

your DH is not following up on what SS is doing.  This is Your DH problem.  Give him a list of thing to do every time he is over.  Clean his room, clean his bathroom. Do dishes ,  but most of all your DH has to check up every night that stuff is done.  Then if not, he has to finish is job and something is taken away until he gets with the program 

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Submitted by susanm on Sat, 12/29/2018 - 3:21am

Just let him stay in Texas with his "family."  Given that he knows he is coming back to a punishment, he is probably trying to arrange that as we speak.  Little ungrateful sh*t!

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 12/29/2018 - 5:56am

Stop allowing real dishes/glasses. Have Dh purchase a small garbage with bags, paper plates and solo type cups. Kid can take out his tied up bag of trash every other few days. It's up to Dad to be sure that gets done and to take the cost out of Dad's pocket spending money each time more purchased. They both need to be treated as two year olds as it seems to be the blind trying to lead the blind. 

The kid is obviously using the real dishes as his one way to defy you ... he's getting a kick out of how angry it makes you and knowing you haven't been able to stop him. So take his 'fun' out of the game. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 12/29/2018 - 8:16am

Like most alienated kids, this one is passive-aggressive. He does this stuff to express his anger at you guys and enjoys watching you all get angry.  So your "creative punishment" will just demonstrate to him that he's gotten under your skin.

Your DH needs to monitor the situation and calmly enforce the rules, probably daily.  How'd he get out of the house without DH checking to see if he had cleaned the bathroom?

Passive-aggressive people love to see you get mad, it's their goal.  Don't let him achieve that.