I have been a stepmom for the last 3 years. The BM barely does anything financially for SS and that responsibility is solely ours. In the last year I have dealt with Breast Cancer, Radiation and most recently a total hysterectomy.  After the first year of marriage I have truly hated being a SM.  I know my husband loves me but I get bad anxiety and panic attacks when his son comes to the house. This year he made the decision for the SS to ride the bus home because I work from home and can watch him. I do not like this at all!  I am at the point that I want out of this marriage.