I'm so tired of being second place. He's not a young child. He is 17! He was 13 when we married. My son had always been his and his brother's "pal," rather than parent. I had concerns that we'd have parenting issues. My husband assured me we wouldn't. Well...we did!!

I tried to do things for my son. I got him scheduled for first-choice classes in h.school before they moved up from Texas in the summer. I (and my parents) included him in activities, etc. I drove him to summer school, talked with, and let him get settled in. But...when school started and we all went back to school (I have three boys of my own.), and the schedules, bed times, and other house rules had to go into effect...all you-know-what broke loose. Since then, it's been horrendous. I've had horrible stuff posted on myspace and facebook about me. He trash talks me to other kids and it gets back to me (I'm a teacher and kids who like me bring the great news.). He complained to his mother and her family and they threatened to get me fired or call CPS if didn't lay off their son. So, I'm not supposed to tell the kid anything? When he leaves in my house? He's not supposed to have the same expectations my kids have? So, I disciplined through my husband. My husband doesn't really discipline though. His son gets to "reason" his way out of everything!!! I could have then cared less if I watched anything he did or any recognition. I did for him, then I get crapped on, repeatedly! I began to resent my stepson and how he treated me in my own house! In fact, I could and can say I hate him. Not my finer moments, but I told my husband I didn't want him around.

The agony went on, and finally my husband moved him in with his older brother who's on his own. The kid's mouth still kept trashing me though! Plus, my husband plans "our" time around my stepson's events, etc. I'm sick of it! He told me he refused to go anywhere with me on my fall break because it meant he'd be out of town again ON his son's birthday. Like it can't be celebrated the day before? Two days after? Now, I just care about making my husband feel as bad as I did for two years. I know it's not right, but I'm so angry and so hurt. I can't wait for my stepson to go off to college next year! But, then my husband will probably be gone every weekend buddying around with him!

I just feel like we should come first. If we're not right, no one else is in the family.

Anybody care to share? This is SUCH a short version of the events!!

frustrated!