I took ss15's computer (that I bougt him so it fell under my "discipline") away for 4 days for slamming doors and breaking the doors. DH tried stopping me but I felt strongly that if he slams door in MY face then he can take MY discipline. Today ss15 got his computer back and he was all happy and said he'd keep his temper in better control. He also asked me to remind his dad to sign football papers b/c he's decided he wants to play afterall. I told him if he keeps up good behaviors then I will be in the stands every game cheering him on and KFC for all afterward. He likes that! After today I saw that he tries so hard to reject me as a mom figure in his life and only wants a friend but when it comes to having an adult who's there for him he's all for it. Maybe my DH is right in that I need to just be a friend and let dh do all the dirty work.