So my BD is turning 1 in two weeks, an I want to throw a small party/get toghether with family and friends. I talked to dh about my plans, buying a cake, balloons, gifts etc and he catches a bad attitude. Dh just gave me a nonchalant I don't give a fuck attitude, saying "my son didnt have a party when he was one" ! Are u fucking serious! MAYBE it's because your exwife is a loser and a deadbeat that wouldn't consider doing anything like that. Why should our daughter suffer because her half brother has a bad mom. His attitude really pissed me off! Why should I or dh feel guilty about doing anything for BD. Dh wants his kids to have exactly the same things, but that's not reality! Your kids have different moms! I can't help that he wasn't read to or put in little league, or missed out on having birthday parties. And my daughter is not going to suffer. I'm going all out for her bday too! I don't even care if DH and his son shows up! And when I think about it, even if I did throw a b-day party for ss when he was 1-4 years old who would I invite? He has no family on his BM side and MY family really has no connection with him.