So yes some folks blasted me on accepting her friend request and inviting in the drama but now I have a message from her where she is looking to being back in our lives.

The reasons she's currently not in our lives are very numerous but some of the highlights for me are
She would bad mouth me to anyone who would listen.
She stood out in front of our house, screaming obsenities at me because SS got on the bus instead of going over to where she was parked back behind the fence so we wouldn't see her - I know this one was weird.
We loaned her a couch of mine when I moved in DH because she needed one and we had no room - now I know I shouldn't have but I did and about 6 months later we get a call that we have about an hour to come pick it up or it's going in the dumpster. Needless to say we didn't get there fast enough and it was in the dumpster completely destroyed.
Every time we would try to make peace with her, it always came down to he was her brother first and I was just the girlfriend. At the last peace making session, she hung on him and then yelled at me because I wouldn't not take her hand in forgiveness while she was subtly insulting me. DH got up and came and sat by me and she proceed to tell me that I was destroying her family and how horrible I was. DH almost hit her.

Please note that DH did not have a close relationship with her before me - the dysfunction in his family started way before me - I'm just the one who is being blamed for it. There are a lot of other things that she's done and said to me and to us that finally got DH to the point that he just said he was no longer going to deal with her and he cut her off. On my other post someone said this is all my side and how do you know it's the truth. Sorry I can only give my side here.

So yesterday I get the following message - I've changed the names
Glad you accepted my friend request. Im glad to hear things are going well for you and my bother. Two little ones are great. I really miss DH as he is one big part of my family. I know my bipolar has been out of control. But i have a great dr and therapist now and BF. We were broke for a few weeks but we really love each other. Sorry so long i feel its important. I would like to know what you would want from me to back up for my mistakes? Its been nine years since all the upset started and i just like closure to that. I learning so much and all my surgeries these past few years have been tough. I am feeling much better and i wish i could be given a second chance. My hysterectomy brought me to reality i will never have a baby. Not over that yet. Well enough about me. I just wanted to apologize for my past errors and ask your and DHs forgiveness. I would someday like yall to meet BF the love of my life. That would mean alot he is a good man. Well thanks for your time. SIL

How do I respond to this? DH and I have kind of talked about it and he's asking me what I want to do and I really don't know.

Thanks!