I would feel bad but I'm seeing more and more how much of her troubles she brings on herself.

Today we drove the FSkids back to her house. For anyone who doesn't know, it's about a 4 hour drive giving us an 8 hour round trip. Usually, FH will make the drive one way and BM will do the other, but this weekend we picked them up on Friday, too. She said last week she had plans today and so she couldn't pick them up.

FH also made it clear that he'd be getting them back there mid-afternoon today so we didn't have to leave super early but could be back at a decent time (we have to be up early tomorrow - it's our engagement photo session! :)). So today she sent FH a text and said to call or text her when we were about an hour out, presumably so she could be home in time. Cool, that sounds like a good idea. At this time, we were about an hour and a half away so we texted back a few minutes later and asked her to message back so we knew she got it. About 15 minutes later, with no reply, FH calls her, gets no answer and leaves a voicemail saying we're just over an hour away now.

30 minutes later, with no replies still, he calls again and she picks up. He tells her we'll be there in 30 minutes and she gets all pissy with him because he "was supposed to call when it was an hour". He says, "Well, I called 30 minutes ago and replied to your text about 5 minutes after you sent it so I gave plenty of notice. Sorry, but we did call." So she starts whining about how she's at her parents' house doing dishes and the baby had just gone down for his nap and she can't get there that fast, and she didn't get the other call or text because her ringer was off. She pulled in about 3 seconds before us when we reached her neighborhood. She didn't mention any of it when we got there, but she was snippy and irritable with us like it was our fault she had to rush home. She likely didn't say anything so that she can deny being upset about it at a later date when she realizes what a dumb ass she looks like for reacting with us the way she did, but I'm sure she'll warp the story so that FH is a jerk and she called us 12 times and we were the ones who didn't answer until the last minute so that she can whine to her friends about what a victim she is, anyway. Whatever.

Maybe it's just me, but if I was expecting my kids to be coming home mid-afternoon and I had specifically requested someone contact me so I could get back to my house in time, I would probably A) actually check my phone or at least keep it nearby, turn the ringer ON if I couldn't check it constantly and C) if I knew it was getting close to the expected ETA, rather than send a text and then ignore my phone I would probably opt out of doing dishes for my parents, load the baby into the carseat and get ready to head out instead of letting him take his nap at my parents house knowing I would have to leave soon.

Mistakes happen and if she forgot to check her phone, that's fine. It would have been annoying to wait around for her for 20 minutes but overall no big deal. -shrug- It's the snarky attitude like it's somehow our fault or we've done her some great inconvenience because she couldn't be bothered to check her phone, even though SHE sent the initial message requesting that we contact her in the first place.

Am I insane or is that completely nonsensical?