I'm hoping someone can relate to what I am experiencing and still experiencing after 8 years of marriage and with a step-son who is still "distant".
My husband and I have a wonderful relationship and enjoy doing many things together. We run businesses and enjoy traveling the world. We have been married now for 8 years. He has a son that is 26 years old and will soon be a father himself.
There are no issues with my husbands ex-wife. They are both great parents to their son. And she is soon to remarry herself.
When my husband and I first got together, his son and I got along well. We all would go hunting, golfing and surfing together. On a few occasions we went golfing and swim laps together at the pool.
Everything changed when he met his girlfriend. His attitude changed towards me. He became more distant and arrogant with me. I couldn't figure out what was going on. His girlfriend would not acknowledge me, except when the his father was with me. I was more "baffled" than anything, as to what was going on. I just ignored the situation and pretended nothing was happening... just to keep the peace.
Months went on, years went by... my stepson is still with his girlfriend and she has established a very close relationship with his mother.
One day my stepson came over (himself) to share his news that he and his girlfriend were expecting a baby this November.
With all the excitement, I thought I should place extra effort and try to see if she and I could start to get to know each other better... especially being that a "grand child" was on its way. So one day I decided to go over to her work place to surprise her with a small gift and congratulate her. We spent some time talking and I told I hope we could have a chance to get to know each other better. She was excited and asked if I would go walking with her as part of her exercise routine. I was excited and told her to just give me a call anytime... I'll be glad to go.
Well... months went by since my attempt with her... no response. But then I figure I should give her the benefit of the doubt because her and my step son just opened a brand new business. Months continue to go by... she'd text message my phone leaving "baby bump" picture of her... that's all.
I recently got an invitation to attend her baby shower being thrown by my stepson's mother. But unfortunately, I will be unable to attend because I will be on a trip with my husband and father-in-law. YES, my stepson's girlfriend knew we were going to be on this trip that specific weekend. BUT, I am still trying to think positive and not think other than... she simply "forgot".
I have been married to a wonderful man for 8 years. I will not let anything or anyone negatively influence in any way. He deserves no "dramas" in his life. I will just have to accept that I AM THE OTHER WOMAN... And that's just the way its going to be. I figure this is okay, because as long as I know how much my husband loves me and I know how much I make him happy and he makes me happy... this is what really matters. I will use this a my strength to handle being... "the other woman"....