Great article, thank you for sharing.

Oh Lordy this is gross.

My brother in law and his wife have a 20 year old daughter. She is still at community college and doesn't work. Somehow she can never manage to get along with co-workers and supervisors at all the jobs she's had, so they allow her to not work and they pay her to clean their house! They bought her a brand new Altima and make the payments. And they're thinking of moving to another state in a few years and PLAN TO TAKE HER WITH THEM! It's frightening to me that this is how some people raise kids. They are setting her up to either never leave home or marry the first guy who will keep her in the lifestyle in which she has grown accustomed. I cannot imagine relocating to another state with my parents as an adult. Who does that?

Welcome to the "Pussification of America"! (As a gal in another group I belong to dubbed it)

Seriously, this country in going into a sickening downward spiral, like abandon all hope spiral, there is no hope for humanity.

I work on a college campus. We've moved from helicopter parents to velcro parents. It's going to get worse, folks.

My daughter, 29 and just finishing up her bachelors degree, works (yes, in school full time AND works) at a hotel near her campus in Texas. A student was staying there while he waited for his dorm room or apt or whatever. The hotel had a hot water problem. The kid called his mother in Florida to ask what to do. The mother called the hotel and reamed my daughter for the hot water problem (like she could do anything about it) because little sonny couldn't take a shower.

It is pathetic.

This was totally SD24 and BM. BM has done no favors to SD24 by doing everything for her. In college, BM drove 4 hours to SD's college so she could fill our SD's study abroad paperwork. SD told us where BM stayed in sorority house, and when DH received the copies of the paperwork to pay his share, it was all clearly filled in with BM's handwriting. Seriously?? At 23, BM was the one filling out SD's medical forms and contacting DH about SD's insurance. Ridiculous.

SD24 lived with BM until a couple of months ago, even though she graduated from college over 2 years ago. BM does not like SD24's boyfriend or SD24's partying ways, so every now and then she kicks SD24 out. SD24 always responds by calling the police and threatening to take BM to court to get back in "her" house. DH won't let SD24 spend one night with us out of fear of potential drama and police involvement if she decides to stay longer than we say she can.

SD24 FINALLY seems like she's beginning to launch. She moved across the country to go to grad school. She didn't have enough credit or savings to rent an apartment, so BM "had" to do it. She doesn't have the money for tuition, so BM is paying it. So basically SD24 is living her same lifestyle, but out of BM's sight. Before she moved, BM was giving SD a hard time about cosigning for the apartment, so SD called DH demanding he fix it all for her. When he said no, she threatened to kill herself. Next thing we know, BM is blowing up DH's phone about the suicide threat. DH ignored it all. SD was clearly not going to commit suicide.

This is all so crazy to me because I was self sufficient at 18. While I understand college is more expensive these days, but there are other ways to get through school without Mommy and Daddy hovering. My parents never saw my dorm room, never knew my grades, never heard a thing from me. I did invite them to my German Honor Society induction, and my professor thereafter was always asking after my parents.

When DH ever defends SD24, I simply remind him that he was married, going to grad school at night after his day job, and saving for a house by the time he was SD's age.

I'm worried I'll "stunt" my own children's growth when they grow up. It will be interesting. I do agree this is a HUGE problem these days.