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SS21 about to be released from incarceration

Toooldfor this's picture

Submitted by Toooldfor this on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 3:24pm

And BM is making noises that he can't live with her. She enabled him to the point of being found in contempt of court by providing an alibi that was later disproven. He made my life a living hell for four years. Stole my jewelry, my grandfather's coin collection, my money. I was not "allowed" to file charges against him as DH did not want me to put his son in jail. He didn't seem to get that his son's behavior would be what put him in jail. SS finally stole from strangers and was caught, convicted of felony theft and incarcerated. I am now having to deal with DH's guilt about his son being on the street if we don't let him move back in with us. This is my line in the sand! Crap!!!

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Submitted by CrazieCoconut86 on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 3:28pm

Tell him HELL NO! NO CONVICTED CRIMINAL WILL BE ALLOWED IN MY HOME! And stand your ground with that. My parents did the same thing with my brother. Where is brother now, jail. I am just waiting for the day his gf decides she has better things to do then take care of their kids and wait for his ass to get out. That is when my nightmare will come true... I will somehow (because i have bad luck and apparently did something aweful in a past life) end up being responsible for his children.

DO NOT allow SS back in your home. Jail won't change him. He will be out for a few weeks, before there is a temptation to steal again. Back he will go. Do let him steal from you. If he does, make it clear to DH that you WILL press charges.

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Submitted by Toooldfor this on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 5:58pm

SS has been in jail for two years! While in jail he has accumulated even more charges for assault and theft. Jail has probably only given him more ideas.

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Submitted by dontcallmestepmom on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 3:41pm

Irony-BM allows and enables, and now does not want to deal with what she helped create. She is banking on your DH to allow him to move in with you. This is a scenario I could SO see happening with my FDH's kids. Our BM is the same way. The kids have not been to jail-yet-but BM is getting tired of their laziness, attitudes, and refusal to work. They are all young adults-she encouraged this behavior and lives like this herself, but now, she has 3 slobs living with that are not bringing in cash (CS is almost over). She wanted us to take 2 of the 3 last summer. NO FREAKING WAY. That was a mess. They are not even allowed in here to visit.

Keep strong and do NOT allow him back in your home. Make sure that DH tells him that he needs to find some kind of living arrangements-the jail can work on a halfway house or something. I hope your DH supports you, bc if his son comes back, you won't be able to have any peace in your home. Let BM deal with the mess she made.

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Submitted by Toooldfor this on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 5:51pm

I absolutely think this is a ploy on BM's part. She's just yanking DH's chain to see if he will still jump. I am so tired of being manipulated by both of these two. It's okay for his BM to not allow him in her home, but it's wrong if I won't allow him in mine!!!

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Submitted by Toooldfor this on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 5:56pm

He does not want SS at home, but he won't allow him to live on the street. Believe me, that wouldn't happen. SS is quite resourceful and I am positive that BM would back down if DH said no! Just another game and an opportunity for more and more drama!