i live with two of my own children and two step daughters. One is 17 ( will be 18 in Feb.) the other is 16. I’ve had them in my life for six years. When my husband and I got together he didn’t have any visitation ever set up. The girls mother was in prison, they were never married and her mother took the girls. He always had them living with him while they were together and then the family just shared them after they split up. The mother of the girls got heavy into drugs and trouble to where she spent two years in prison. My husband and I got  legal visitation rights after we got married.