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unsure in vt's picture

I'm in a 6 year relationship with a man, who has his 18 year old son living with us. Last night the son told me that he has never liked me, and that he never will. He's living with us while he goes to college, and has no chores or responsibilities. He is the topic of many conv between his dad and I. I moved out for 6 months a year ago, mainly because of him, his constant stream of friends, and his dad's lack of control. He and his friends ruled the house when he was with us every weekend, and school vacations. I came back because his dad and I made some
promises to each other to try harder. I and we have been going to counseling alone and together. I just don't know if I'm cutout for this the next 4 years and beyond. Any advice appreciated.

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somedevilishbeauty's picture

Who the hell cars if he likes you or not? I would have told him that it didn't matter what he thought your dating his father not him. He's an adult and needs to grow up. if your going to counseling obviously your SO wants it to work so tell him and maybe your counselor. His kids should not control his love life.

ChiefGrownup's picture

"Don't like me? Sucks for you. Solve your problem: move out, kid."

Yes, move back out. Go be happy. Let dh decide how he wants to live his life. Why should you be miserable in a hostile environment? Dh will either chase you and make changes in his life. Or he won't. Either way, you win. Cuz you're out living a good life.

unsure in vt's picture

Thanks for the feedback. Good to know that others give the same advice as my two sisters, and some of my same thoughts. Seeing my counselor on Thursday to discuss further.