It's going to be one hell of a family meeting this weekend!
It just keeps getting worse! Trying to plan the new rules DH & I plan to enforce at the family meeting this weekend.Things are looking good and we are very much agreed on the issues that need to be addressed.
So...I go out for my lunch break and DH & I discuss more of the rules & how to handle any riduculous comments and accusations etc. anyway I'll blog about that later.
Get off the phone from DH and BD17's school principal calls with some fabulous news for me 
Effing bitch BD17 has kicked up a stink in maths class because the teacher told her to get off the phone.
She refused - including swearing at him :jawdrop:
Then he threatened to take her phone away.
She let loose a tirade of swearing and carrying on until another teacher attended the room to try and calm the situation :jawdrop:
The teacher was apparently quite reasonable and told her if she would just put her phone away and get on with her work they would leave it at that.
She continued to swear and refuse to put the phone away!
They took her to the principals office where he reminded her of a meeting 2 weeks ago where he threatened her with expulsion if she did not catch up her assignments and also reprimanded her about the event that had just occurred.
It's her final year of highschool - she has mere months to finish for good & she's throwing it away.
She has been sent home today and is not allowed to return until Monday afternoon and only with me in attendance too!
Great now I have to take more time off work! }:)
So the first of enforcing new rules and consequences begins!
I just let her know that she has lost all of her technological priviledges. no more iphone, no internet, etc until the school work is caught up & we see an improvement in her behaviour!
Doubt there will be much peace in our house this evening.
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You need to cut her off from
You need to cut her off from the world....Change the wifi password, disconnect the TV. Don't just say you are taking it away, actually do it. She needs a reality check....
What are your plans when school is over? She doesn't sound like she is going to college. How long can she live with you?
You know, I think things will
You know, I think things will get worse before they get better. Sorry to rain on any positivity, as I am NOT suggesting you just give up, in fact do the opposite (as you are now) however I am giving you a heads up as I find when you are trying to tackle, ingrained, hostile behaviour with rules and no nonsense consequences - the perpetrators of the bad behaviour will up their game and aggression in order to get you to back down, so please be prepared for this but hold firm.
Have an idea in your head how you will address things if they get out of control. Like perhaps ringing the police if you BS goes off the deep end, as imo you may be doing him a favour with cold harsh shock.
I really do appreciate my words are easy to say but extremely difficult to apply to people you love and are conditioned to protect and nuture, however you and DH need to find a calmly but consistent means to address this situation as no one should live like that.
Have you spoken to a counsellor about your family issues? Even if you think it would be impossible to get your own family to attend (and you could ask to see their responses but dont be surprised if they decline) then that counsellor may be able to assist with coping mechanisms and means to calmly deal with it all.
As for your DD, its so frustrating when you see someone with potential throwing away their future, even more so when they have nearly completed what they need to do. However at 17, your DD is responsible for either applying herself to her school work or not. I would coldly remind her that it will be SHE who will have no job, no money, or if shes lucky a low paid factory job. While there is NOTHING wrong with those types of jobs, I am certainly not disrespecting that, I do think most people want more money, more prospects. As for her dream of college, well she is blowing it big time, and I would remind her of this when and if she brings that up in the future. Ultimately you and DH will be fine, but sd is heading into adulthood and therefore will have to support herself, how will she manage to do that if she doesnt have an education?
Good luck!