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wth was I thinking's picture

DH has EOWE with the skids. In the CO, he is to drop skids off Sunday evening at 7:00. A month ago, BM sent him a text at about 6:45 (he was about to walk out the door) 'I'm not home, I'll let you know when I am and you can bring the girls'. Um, ok, stupid cunt. Whatever. TWO HOURS go by, nothing. He texted her once or twice like, um, hey, just wondering if you have an idea about what time you will be home, etc... No response. He finally called her at 930, 'oh, I was about to call you, yeah, I'm on my way home.' Ugh. DH and I have to get up at ass o'clock in the morning. I start work at 630, him at 7. I want to be IN BED by 10, not have him out driving around to suit her whims.

The next visitation. 'I have to work Sunday evening, I might need you to drop them off a little late'. This was brought up around 6pm on Sunday. Again, 9:50, he had to call her to see what in the fuck she was up to. 'Oh, I'm on my way home, you can bring them now'. I was livid, skids were falling asleep, just a bad situation all around.

Yesterday, Sunday. Mid afternoon, I told him, you better call that cunt and find out what her plans are tonight regarding drop off. He called her (woke her up, hehe) said he was planning on dropping skids off at 730, to give her a little more time to get back from work (she cleans offices). She said between 730-8 would be ok, but she would 'let him know if she needed more time'. He said no, you cannot do that again where you call me ten minutes before to tell me to wait until 10pm. School starts in a week, they're tired, they need to be on a normal schedule. She hung up on him.

We heard nothing from her the rest of the evening, and at 730, he left with the skids. There was come construction traffic, so he got there at 7:55. She wasn't home. He called her, and she was all bent out of shape, 'well I'm just finishing up, so I'll be there in 10 minutes'. He said she pulled up, put skids in her car, and left again. So she clearly had something else she needed/wanted to do, and had NO plans of telling him until she was done, most likely around 930-10 per her usual. I have to say I was really proud of him for essentially forcing her to get her shit together, but I just see this to be a continuing problem. Is there anything that can be done? Will the police file a report if we call it in, so we can officially document it? He will text her, but she just calls, or won't respond, so it's hard to get stuff in writing from her. Next time I swear I want to call the police and tell them she abandoned her kids, but that would just be a whooooole level of crazy I'm not ready to delve into at the moment, lol.

Any ideas?

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CBCharlotte's picture

^^^ I agree. I would say "Per our CO, I am to drop the kids off at 7pm. If you cannot be home at the designated time, then it will be your responsibility to pick them up from my house. If this is a problem, I suggest you rearrange your schedule to be home at 7:00pm.

wth was I thinking's picture

Ugh...the c word again.

That's the nicest way to describe this woman. This is someone who will admit out loud to using her kids as weapons against their father. And who also will admit to anyone that asks, had she not forgotten the knives were in the dishwasher during her psychopathic rage, she would have stabbed him in the chest right in front of his kids.

wth was I thinking's picture

We can't keep them overnight on Sunday, because like I mentioned, I start work at 630, DH starts at 7. He does roofing, and if he isn't at the shop when it's time to start he loses the entire day. There is no 'taking half the day off'. And their school is (with the traffic in this city in the morning) about 45 minutes away, so there just isn't any way to make it work. That's the only reason it's a major issue, otherwise I would gladly just tell her to suck it and keep them another night.

BethAnne's picture

She can either collect them before you guys leave the house (sounds unlikely she will do it). Or your husband can drop the kids at her house before work. No need to get them ready for school....just leave them in their pj's, she'll have plenty of time to sort them out when he knocks on the door with them at 6am. Perhaps a few early mornings will get her to change her plans on Sundays?

wth was I thinking's picture

This may actually be a viable option. Sucks for the skids to get dragged out of bed at 5am, but I can't imagine it would happen more than twice.

thinkthrice's picture

Sadly, this is a common practice. Happened in my case when BM discovered internet dating (pre-BigBucks Stepdaddy).

Of course Chef, the pandering, panting puppy that he was and is (with BM) was only tooooo happy to spend extra time with his darlin's and do the BM's bidding (on my dime--my gas--my vehicle wear and tear, etc)

Hopefully your DH will grow a pair and hold her in contempt for violation of the CO or at the very least, give her a taste of her own medicine!