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Mothers day vent

youbetheparent's picture

"happy first mothers day" plastered again and again across my Facebook wall... Pisses me the hell off!
I have been a mother for 6 fing years. I have cleaned up poop, made meals, cared for and loved my sd 24/7 because her egg donor was nowhere to be found. I'm more of a mother than that b will ever be, and I'm tired of people thinking just because you are a step you don't count!

Guess its better I did that here than as a reply on fb. Happy mommys day all!

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sonja's picture

I understand your frustrating, being how SMs get such the back burner, even those who are FT parents, while their BM is off doing whatever. Although I was a SM before a BM myself.., the mother's days as a BM are much more special to me, and possibly when your little one is here you will feel the same?

Either way, happy moms day to you as a SM and a BM! I hope whoever posted that wasnt trying to do harm..

youbetheparent's picture

My first BD was born on the first, and it is special, but not in a way that takes away from SD. She and my DH have celebrated mother's day for me for years now.

This is more of a frustration with society and the way step-parents are viewed.

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

Yea, even my MIL who is very supportive of me(and didn't have any bios of her own, she adopted) made the first mothers day comment. Like last year when I was raising 3 teenage skids (I'm only 24 for fucks sake) and was insanely pregnant with twins didn't count. Oh well, it doesn't matter. Happy 6th Mothers Day, yoube!