Quick back story....
DH and MIL had falling out. MIL hired PI to find BM. BM had been MIA for almost 7 years. I have raised SD11 for 6 years. BM caused all kinds of drama, claiming she wanted a relationship with SD. BM fits the stereotype for the backwoods, trailer with 10 junk cars scattered in the yard, uneducated, white trash. Her 4yo was cussing SD out when she went for Spring Break. It's really bad.

Update...

DH filed contempt of court charges for the unsafe environment and lies BM told SD over Spring Break. SD will hopefully be able to testify at the hearing on Monday and tell the judge the toxic venom BM was spewing at her.
BM has not accepted any of the paperwork DH has had her served with for other charges he has filed. To top it all off, BM has called exactly 2x in the last month and a half. She has every other day telephone time (we live in HI and she lives in FL).

Needless to say, SD is PISSED! I cant imagine what it is like for her... this is not once, but twice her BM has dropped out of her life. Who knows if she is even going to show up Monday for the hearing. The problem is, take a pissed off pubescent girl and all the attitude that comes with it (DH and I get the brunt of her anger, yes, she is in counseling, but most of her frustration gets taken out on me. I am trying to be understanding, but am at the end of my rope) couple that with the demands of a new born, and I am going to lose my mind.

On top of all that, it looks like DH will be taking another overseas contract, meaning I will be single parenting said angry pre-teen and baby all on my own.