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What SD said... NEED ADVICE PLEASE!

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Submitted by youbetheparent on Sat, 03/17/2012 - 2:40pm

So I guess the whole time SD was with BM, BM was feeding her lines such as "your father kept moving just so I could not find you" and "your father BEAT ME WITH AN IRON when we were together" just to name a few.

Not sure what to do from here... she has to go back for 1/2 the summer, but she should not be exposed to these types of lies (not to mention they are in direct contempt of the CO).

Can we file something with the courts without and attny (no extra $$$$ right now) because of this?

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Submitted by stepmama2one on Sat, 03/17/2012 - 2:55pm

You can tell Bm that you have been hearing these things and try and threaten that you will take her back to court if she doesnt quit. Which will make Bm realize SD is telling you guys. Which may get her in trouble and even if SD doesnt tell you again doesnt mean her mom has stopped, just means BM has told SD not to tell you guys. Its a trick situation. I would just have her dad tell her that it isnt true and to tell her the truth. You cant really help what her mother says and really unless you get a judge to tell her to quit I doubt she will.

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Submitted by stepmama2one on Sat, 03/17/2012 - 2:58pm

You can of course file contempt or enforcement papers without a lawyer, to enforce her to go by the papers,but that still costs some money...

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Submitted by youbetheparent on Sat, 03/17/2012 - 3:58pm

SD is 11, and this was her first unsupervised visit in 7 years (BM was MIA until last July). We had no way of contacting her during that time, as she was in the US illegally (actually just got all her paper work done the beginning of last year) and we could not locate her (yes, I did try). We have always lived in the same town, SD has gone to the same school, MIL has a business at the same location for over 20 years.

This is the same woman that called DH at 3am Thursday saying she was taking him to court so they would order SD to call her mom. SD calls her by her first name bc she does not know her at all. We have told SD it is up to her how she would like to address BM... however she feels comfortable.