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young_step_mom's picture

I posted last week that SS has been much more affectionate with me lately, and I think it is because his aunt (who used to take care of him most of the time bc his mother is completely self-absorbed) got pregnant and moved in with her bf.

Well today SS was helping me make a pizza and asked if I knew how to make cake. I said yes and he asked if I would make a sponge bob cake for his birthday. He will be 5 in June. So I said yes and he said good, so I can stay here more. I don't know what one thing had to do with the other so I asked, what do you mean? He said, I want to live here now. So I said, ok but you still have to see your mommy because she misses you when you're not with her. I don't know if this is true but I said it anyway because, well, it's his mom whether I like it or not. So he says, no she doesn't. This really throws me off. I ask, why do you say that and he doesn't respond, just keeps putting cheese on the pizza. I drop it and a little bit later and he says, you know what, you know what? And so I ask, what? And he says Sergio (BM's husband) doesn't miss me either.
I am dumbfounded. SS gets along better with his stepfather than with BM. So I ask again, who told you that? And he says someone called me and told me. I ask who and he says a car, a jetta called me and told me. I say, well I don't think that is true, do you believe it? And he says yes. So I say, I don't think so, I think that car lied to you and it's going to get a big nose like Pinocchio. He laughed and didn't bring it up again.

Later DH, SS and I went out so SS could ride his bike. He fell and hit his head and blacked out for like two seconds and so DH and I freaked out and decided to take him to the dr. SS hates doctors, he had a bad kidney and has had numerous surgeries and naturally dislikes doctors and hospitals. So he starts to freak out and I tell him the dr will look at DH first and if he does anything bad we can find another doctor. He calms down and says ok. We are walking to the car when I spot his stepfather. Normally SS gets really excited when he sees him, so I say, look who is there!
He just turns away and I say, do you wanna go say hi? And he says no.

This is so weird to me. I am wondering if he and BM are having problems and maybe this is why he doesn't want to say hi and why he doesn't want to live there anymore. It's not really any of my business, so I am not going to ask but I can't even imagine what is going on at home for SS. I dunno what to think...anyone ever had something like this happen?

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4sremlap's picture

I would be careful of this situation ..I personally experienced my 2 step-sons when they were with me telling me I was the best step-mom and all the butterings and then saying that thier step dad was mean to them and that thier mom didnt let them do anything etc. etc...and the funked up part was after a while it was coming from the exes end too where they were telling her the same complaints trying to play both sets of parents...It's tricky but I just constantly reassured them of the things that were obviously doubtful while still keeping an open ear and mind to the possibility of their truth-ya know? It can become a game and its not very fun to play--hopefully this doesnt happen to you..

young_step_mom's picture

SS told DH that his stepfather called him stupid. I don't know his SF, neither does DH really, but I don't know if it's true.

Do you really think he could be manipulating us? He isn't even 5 yet.

young_step_mom's picture

He has been around for about a year and a half and they have been married about six months ago.