On Father's Day FH and I went to pick up SD3 in the morning. Once we got there BM was so bitchy about the date and time of my sister's wedding (she had already told us that we would not have SD that day since it is during her week). I didn't appreciate the tone that she took about it and the way that she referred to me as "her", not by my name or by actually addressing me since I was RIGHT there. After a few questions we realized she was trying to ask us to switch her days, BM's mom's birthday is this Saturday so in exchange for that we would get SD for my sister's wedding. Apparently BM didn't realize that when asking favors you should be nice and thankful about it. Anyways so after that bitchy behavior we get SD for our week. She was very clingy to her dad and would not let me near her. This was the first time this has ever happened. I bet that BM finally started saying things about me to her. Even FH noticed the HUGE change! I was so sad that I went to my mom to talk about it. She ALWAYS has great advice and once again made me feel tons better! She told me that no matter how bad a mom BM is she is still SD's mom and because of that they will always have a bond. That I shouldn't seek to steal that bond or be jealous of it, but form my own unique bond. She went on to say that SD will see BM's bad comments about me for what they are, but I should take the high road and not make SD feel trapped in the middle. I thought it over and realized that she is right, I am not SD's mom nor do I need to be. I am lucky to be healthy and in the position to have as many kids as I want. I do not need to take that bond away for BM since she is a very unhealthy individual due to smoking, partying, and weight issues. She has a hard time having children; she has had 3 miscarriages in the last year. Not to mention with her poor spending habits and horrible credit she couldn't afford another child. She has to live with her BF's parents to have a roof over her head. I should just be glad that when I am ready, I am fortunate and blesses to be able to welcome kids in to the world with a great environment for them to live in. I do not need to let BM make me feel bad for not being SD’s real mom, instead I need to focus on making sure that my family is happy, letting BM get to me is not making anyone happy besides her. So I am taking my mom’s advice and not dwelling on BM’s drama. I am so lucky to have a great mom that can make me feel better, if only SD could have that.