All has been good in Step Land for the most part.

DH still has no contact with MSD.

We rarely hear from/see SS. This is a little concerning as I worry that he is abusing drugs. His GF doesn't post on FB at all, where before she would always post on FB about him and her, etc. Pretty sure BM is taking the blame for his car accident that happened a little while back. I saw that she has a court date.

YSD is still in the UK with her DH who is deployed there. They seem to just go to clubs/drink and lay around in their apartment and take selfies with filters on them.

DH did meet up with OSD recently for the first time in 10 months. DH initiated the plan and they worked out a date. OSD also wanted to have "a talk" with DH. So DH met up with her and the gkids and then he came home and that was that. No discussion from either of us. I can only imagine what "the talk" was about.

Overall it's been "good" in step land.

I have started going to counseling...for myself. I did bring up DH/skids issue. Counseling pointed out some things that while I feel like I "know" it was also nice to have validation or maybe a little more understanding.

Some of the key points were it's easier for the skids to be mad at me instead of DH/BM because it doesn't always feel right to be mad at mom/dad. So it's easier to blame the "outsider".

Also that no matter how horrid DH's kids are he's still going to love them. So even if I am disgusted by them and the things they do/have done to me, the way they live their lives,etc. they are still DH's kids and he's not going to see it the same way as I see it. And I get that. He gets on BS about stuff sometimes and I think BS is doing nothing wrong, he's fine. So maybe I need to think about that a little more when getting on DH about his kids and what I see them as doing "wrong". I mean obviously they have done a lot of wrong that can not be disputed but just in general I guess.

And the way they (DH/skids) were living their life/their relationship before me was working for them. Then I come into the picture and things change (as they naturally do when adding more people) so to the skids everything was fine until I came along. So there could be resentment from that.

So while it's nothing I haven't heard before, the counselor gave some examples as I shared my story and I felt like those things resonated a little more and it's just something for me to think about a little more when thinking about my relationship with the skids and how things have turned out.