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Submitted by mylife on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 9:12am

I have been marriend to my best friend for almost 4 years. We were great friends for many many years prior to getting married. My husband has been divorced for almost 9 years, he was married for almost 6 years. He has two children(son 12 and daughter 11) I have a 14 year old boy. My son is with me full time and does not have any contact with his father and we do everyother week with my husbands children. His EX is now and always has been a complete nightmare. From alleged child abuse, to leaving the children home alone at the young age of 7, to brainwashing them against the both of us, she manipulates them. Of course she states that I am the evil step mother. Now she is living with a man with two young girls in a very nice home with very nice things, neither family needs for anything. But has decided to drap my husband back to court to pay more child support. He has a family business, so she has decided to TRY to dig into that, has gotton out house appraised, just because she can and want to know everything we do with all and any of our finances. I could go on and on and on but the bottom line that its absilutely disguisting that the laws allow such nonsense to take place. He has never missed a child support payment, provides very well for his children and is in no way a dead beat dad!!Not sure how someone like her sleeps at night or even looks at herself in the mirror

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Submitted by Amazed on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 9:19am

we also have an exbeast with this gorgeous greedy streak... even my 7 year old says, "exbeast is lazy...why do we have to pay for her house and all her stuff??? it's not fair."

the laws are not made for the benefit of men and they're especially not made for men with their own business. Sad and true. The laws are made to teach men not to let their wives stay at home because if they divorce, they'll be paid hefty alimony in addition to child support. Teaches them not to lavish beautiful homes and possessions on their wives because if they divorce the man will have to pay the wife alimony in addition to cs because "standard of living" has to be maintained.
Guys: the law says, treat your wife like crap and do your best not to have any possessions so you don't have to pay for her to maintain a standard of living for the rest of your life if you get divorced.

The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. ~Edward, Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957

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Submitted by hello on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 9:31am

okay so as far as that goes i guess your gonna have to wait and see. he should get as much information as you can about her finances and his that was he can back himself up. sounds crazy to me. hopefully she doesnt get more but less

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Submitted by mylife on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 9:43am

Agreed that we will most certainly get all and any information we can get on her and her boyfriend she is living with but not married to. They are smart though, the new house is in his name, his plane is in his name, the three cars are in his name although she does of two in her name. Most things are in his name although she also owns a house that she does receive rental income from, she does financial suffer dont you think? lol and only has the kids half the time. Amazing. What is most frustrating to me is that I raised my son on my own without any help from his father her was truly "A Deadbeat Dad" and this woman doesn't know how lucky she has it with such a caring devoted father. Oh yeah and she left him for another man when the kids were just two and three. But lets keep him paying, emotionally!

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Submitted by Austen on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 9:55am

men have to pay any child support at all when they have the children half of the time.

Divorced people realize they must now work, if they hadn't before. That's reality. Your BM is greedy. Period. She's bleeding your DH for anything she can get -- and has the law behind her.

For the courts to "even up the sides" in our case means that BM makes more money every month than the TWO of us do combined (she works and gets CS, even though we have the kids greater than 75 percent of the time).

The family court system is a joke. We essentially pay her mortgage every month through CS (she dislikes even spending money on the kids' clothes and asks us to split all of their expenses, except insurance and sports, which we cover fully) while we struggle to meet our commitments.

Something must change!

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Submitted by Amazed on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 10:00am

My dh's daughter(she's 11) makes ALMOST as much money a month in child support as I get paid monthly. Because DH owns his own practice, he pays the maximum amount of child support allowed in the state of maryland...and exbeast makes about as much in alimony for staying at home on her ass as I make in 2 months running our office. :sick:

The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. ~Edward, Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957

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Submitted by Abigail on Fri, 07/31/2009 - 11:06am

The house and everything is in my name. It was all mine before I met him but knowing BM as we do, we would have put it in my name if we just bought it so she couldn't get her grubby hands on anything. We went back to court and showed him paying me rent (as he does) and all his other bills are seperate. Also, he pays half utilities. That way, she can't touch anything. All real property is in my name. My husband has his own business so I tell him to work less. Why should he work a lot just to pay her and put us in a higher tax bracket. Last skid turns 18 in 2 years but I am still keeping the house in my name. If he dies, I don't want to fight greedy skids to live in my own home.

It's sad but that's how it has to be with a greedy BM around.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"