2 weeks
Tomorrow will mark two weeks since I spoke to SD16. She really hasn't been home much, but she has been there and we haven't exchanged as much as a look. After all of the drama she has caused in the last couple months, I am just done. I know this isn't exactly "adult" of me, but I don't care anymore. I have taken the high road time and time again. Maybe it will teach her a lesson, a lesson she needs to learn. "You can't just treat people like crap all the time, and expect them to forgive and forget because you want something."
On another note, she thinks she is pregnant again. Big surprise there. Every time the girl has sex she thinks she is pregnant. Normally she comes crying to me about this, but she didn't, she went to DH. Maybe he will start taking all of this seriously too. She "says" she hasn't had a period since June. I think that is a lie. She told me she hadn't had a period since June at the end of July. I called BM, and she said she thought she had one in July but she bought her 3 pregnancy tests and she took all three and they were negative. Then about 3 weeks ago she asked me for tampons. Why she needed them if she wasn't on her period is beyond me, unless she just thought she was going to start. I don't know. DH is suppose to be setting a doctors appointment for her. Whatever.
Bad thing is, if she is, there are 3 or 4 guys it "could" belong to. Yes, you read that right. She is 16, and within June she slept with at least 3 maybe 4 guys that "I" know of.
The other bad thing... I have been completely honest with DH that if SD16 ends up pregnant I am LEAVING him. I know that sounds harsh, but he has done NOTHING to prevent, and only left opportunity after opportunity, against MY judgment for his 16 year old daughter to continually have sex. Full well knowing it was unprotected, knowing my stand on it, and knowing I would leave him if it happened. I am not doing it.
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I agree with you on the
I agree with you on the leaving. My sd doesn't live with us and she barely comes as before. BUT i also clearly told my dh, that if she ever gets pregnant, she will NEVER live with us , even if her mother boots her out, and her grandparents dont want her, too bad, so sad. TOUGH. She can marry the guy her F'd her and live with him.
But i get the gutt feeling her mom would keep her because she would be proud to have a grandchild. BUt that is bm. Dated 6 guys fresh after the divorce and has now settled on a man who doesn't work and has full custody of his own child from a previous marriage. And from what i understand, he tells her off. That is karma for ya!
Hopefully she will use protection when she is active, which is pretty soon cause she is already going around kissing boys.
WHy the heck hasn't your husband done anythign about the 3-4 guy thing? My dh took a flip just hearing that his daughter kissed a boy.
wow
i agree that by ignoring sd she may learn that lesson. i am in the beginning process of teaching sd11 that lesson (read my latest blog). i hope she learns it cause in the real adult world, NO ONE is going to put up with her shit. sd11 is going to get her ass beat in school if she keeps up her 'i am better than u" attitude.
i hope your sd isnt pregnant. and i hope your dh finaly sees what his beloved daughter is becoming. maybe her being pregnant will open his eyes to HIS mistakes and how they effect his child and you.
if she is and you do stay, dont help with the baby. in fact, maybe send sd to live with bm fulltime so u wont have to deal with it.
good luck
She has been with over 20
She has been with over 20 guys. Those 3-4 were just in June/July, if she really did get pregnant then. I don't know. He just thinks this is normal teenage stuff. Denial. Guilt parenting. To worried about being her friend. There are many variables, I think.
Huh!
Um, ho! a 16 year old sleeping (well, not sleeping) with 3 or 4 guys in one month?? Get that girl some help cuz she's got some deep issues! And you're right. If she is pregnant and is living with you, you'll never get her out of the house. In most states, you have to get a court order and there's usually a 6 month waiting period to get her out if she refuses to leave. But for now, just ignore her. Do you think she's maybe doing this just for the attention?
Pregnant? She better hope thats ALL that happens...
If she is having sex like that she probably already has an STD and is well on her way to catch HIV.
I don't get it. Why won't he take her to get birth control?
Sad...Very sad...
She was on birth control,
She was on birth control, but she is almost 17 and I am done paying for. She wasn't taking it anyway. I think she is trying to get pregnant...
somebody smack her please
Don't worry.. I'm coming right over with my palms up..
Ok but really..
This girl needs to get a reality check, and I'm so sorry that it sounds like you're the one having to deal with that. DH is in denial? If she wants a baby, there is something else going on. She needs attention or someone to love her unconditionally? She's bored? Feeling like she's got no goals in life? If she wants an example of what her life could potentially turn out to be, tell her the wonderful life of a single mom or better yet.. a STEP PARENT..because god knows if she has a baby, the dad won't stick around (a 16 year old boy himself, or somewhere in that range?) she'll be sure to one day want to marry, have a family, be an adult, and good luck finding a man who will absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE being a SD to her kid.
You're a trooper, MeanOleMe
www.plannedparenthood.com
or unplanned for that matter
--if you don't want to pay for her birth control, pregnancy tests, STD testing, etc..
If you wish to give off light, you must endure the burning.