Disillusioned Christmas
HI,
Searched this web site out tonight. Love my husband, hate my life. What to do. Had an early holiday with SD & family, her hubby (worthless alcoholic) 3 kids, 4year old, 3 year old & 2 month old.
The kids tore through the presents without stopping, never a thak you & thought that all were from Santa & complained that they did not get what they wanted. I fool that I am spent the day doing their laundry, BF spent it cooking. SD & hubbby went out for 6 hours. We spent way too much on gifts & food. I feel like I have a foot print on my face. I took vacation days to do this. Now BF expects me to finsh shopping & mailing present to the rest of his family. And to top it off SS is coming on xmas week end. I work holidays & week eknds. Managed to get off to spend quite tiome with my hubby. I get naused thinking of the rest of my life like this. Suggestions. I feel like a whiner.
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You are not a whiner. The
You are not a whiner. The issues we deal with every other day of the year become intensified at Christmas. This is a holiday where a child's obnoxious behavior, and a bad attitude is somehow justified. A lot of skids are naturally spoiled and entitled and this day devoted to their material demands is like a slap in the face. I'm preparing myself for the holidays by not expecting any type of appreciation, preparing for lots of complaints, and drowning out the brattiness with eggnog. Wish I had some better suggestions.
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."
"I'm preparing myself for
"I'm preparing myself for the holidays by not expecting any type of appreciation, preparing for lots of complaints, and drowning out the brattiness with eggnog."
AMEN! That's just it unfortunately.... If I want to have a nice holiday, i need to lower my expectations and expect the ungrateful spoiled entitled behavior along with a side of adult beverages will do!
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Well I feel better today,
Well I feel better today, the house is empty. Me with a cold 101.7 temp, thanks to the sick family that came.
My dh is out finshing the shopping for his family. I am tackling the mountaion of laundry from the the family being here.
I have made some firm decisions about any other holidays. I will do nothing. Keep my regular cleaning schedule & I do the bills so
I will give just a certain amount to spend. No more vacation days to get ready for people who don't apprecitae it. I also plan to work the holidays. Ny family is all too far away to celebrate with. I am going on vacation this spring with my sisters. Sonuds selfish, but at least I won't wear the foot print on my face. I chose not to have children for a reason. I work all day taking care of people & love my job, so my down time is for me to enjoy. Than ks for all the kind words. ChaiLatte, I love the quote, I don't like the reality of who the children are. So I am going to distance myself.
Sadly, these situations
Sadly, these situations leave many no other option but to disengage. Glad you are feeling better!
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."