Always the Drama Queen
As an update to my last blog - we won!! BM was looking for a babysitter but couldn't find one so she ended up staying home with her child (GOD FORBID) and being a *gasp* MOTHER! 
Of course all this is with drama included, though. The night before Saturday night (which is when she wanted us to take SS2 because she wanted to go to a hockey game), we went out to a late dinner with some friends and someone tells us they just saw BM at a bar. Hmmmm...where are the children?
Once again, DF gets on his text machine and asks her "Where are the kids, because I know they're not with you?" This of course leads into a text-a-thon where BM will not tell him where the kids are. This is directly stated in their stipulation that if the kids are to be staying overnight anywhere without a parent that the other parent has FIRST rights to having the kids. If it weren't for that stipulation, would never condone my DF getting involved in the drama.
After a half hour of bickering and finally DF saying to her that he will call the cops and show them the stipulation and all of their texts...finally she says they are with her parents. She felt so high and mighty that her ex was concerned about what she was doing...we could care less what she's doing!! We just want to make sure the kids are somewhere acceptable!
She could have simply answered him and the conversation would be over, but I'm sure she enjoyed sitting at the bar with her friends and telling them what a psycho we are that we want to know where she is, etc...although DF specifically said "I do not care where you are or what you are doing - that's your business. All I want to know is where are the kids?"
Drama drama drama!
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I dont know why some people
I dont know why some people have to drag out conversations! They must think the world revolves around them, or she thinks your DH actually cares what SHE is doing. That is how our BM is with my DH. He is always telling her its not about her, its about his daughter! She is crazy.
I know what ya mean. Our BM
I know what ya mean. Our BM is constantly telling my DH about her life when he tries to talk to her about SD12 or SD15. DH has nicely told BM that he doesn't care about what is going on in her life...just his daughters. But BM continues to tell him everything, every chance she gets.
Her self indulgent behavior
Her self indulgent behavior has nothing to do with the kids and everything to do with maintainer her delusion of self importance.
Dad just wanted to know where HIS kids were while their mother was out pickling her liver at the local bar and asked for nothing other than what was outlined in the court order. How evil and interfering of him. :O
Seems pretty simple to me.
Best regards,
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)
I like the way you put it:
I like the way you put it: "Maintain her delusion of self importance" I'm going to use that some day
Thanks for the
Thanks for the support...yes, everything is about BM and I fear it will ALWAYS be about BM! (Bio-mother or B****-mother? Hmmm.......)
so if bm wants to let skids
so if bm wants to let skids stay the night at grandmas on her time she has to clear it with DF first?? seems a little excessive -- has she left skids w/inadequate care in the past to need such specific wording??
our first right of refusal applies to babysitters or paid day care, not family.
Yes, I agree it's excessive.
Yes, I agree it's excessive. For whatever reason during their child support meetings with their lawyers they decided to include that. DF has had MAJOR trust issues and she consistently lies about where the kids are so it was kind of a hokey thing to add in to try to make that NOT happen...it is basically just a method for us to threaten her when she is not being honest. Not condoning threatening but hey, it works!
Her own parents have not had the best track record of parenting...so go figure.