Wednesday morning SS10 hocked a lugey into my hairbrush before I went to use it. Every morning he uses the brush and puts it away, and then I use it. Well the brush wasn't in the drawer, no biggie, I checked the hall closet and it was there half hidden under a wash rag, ok. I look into the brush and there is what I thought was hair gel, so I started cleaning it out with my bare hands (I was in a rush) and it wasn't the consistency of hair gel so I smelled it, IT WAS SS10'S FUNK BREATH. I knew immediately what had happened and after I was done gagging and washing my hands, I confronted him (since Dad goes to work before we wake up). He said he didn't spit in the brush and then said it was an accident, that he drooled into the brush and then he said he didn't know why he did it. I was livid. He did not apologize, just stood there blank faced. I was crying at this point (I am not a crier) and I asked why he does these type of things to me all of the time. Of course he says he doesn't know. I said 1 thing I shouldn't have said and it was "Ya know what, Im not your mother and I don't try to be, but Im going to start acting like your mother, than I won't have to do crap for you". Nothing, the child had no emotion. So I called my husband and he was busy at work and said he would take care of it. So SS goes to leave for school and comes over like nothing happened and is like "Bye Pantera" (in a nice, everything is rainbows and butterflies tone) and tries to hug me. I didn't hug him, said bye and walked away. WTF???!!!

So DH calls me on my lunchbreak to make sure I was ok. He knew I was upset and he never does this so I know it was genuine. He said he would take care of it.

I go straight to the grocery store after work. I am shopping and DH calls. He goes off about how he punished SS. Spanked him, punished him until Sunday (no tv, friends, or DSi), and said he couldn't go to the amusement park with us on Saturday as planned. He said that SS said he does this because he is sick of everyone telling him how much better I am than his Mom. DH tells me that I need to stop doing that. BACK THE F*** UP. I NEVER EVER EVER say anything bad to SS about BM. I did tell DH that I did say something about BM that morning AFTER a lugey was spit into my brush. DH gets mad at me, tells me he's frustrated and doesn't want to talk. I think its because he had to discipline his child. I get off of the phone.

I get home and DH and SS10 come out to help unload groceries. DH has this attitude towards me. We all get in the house and I grab DH and just cried. He told me to go lay down and he'd be in. So him and SS put away groceries and I can hear him talking to SS but I couldn't hear what was said. DH comes in and tells me the punishments again and tries to comfort me. I tell him that I can't figure out why SS would do that to me. I told him about the night before, I let SS pick out dinner, gave him back his DSi (he was punished to taking a razor to the bathroom wall again on Sunday), he talked to me about his BM and I took up for her because SS was saying some things that he shouldn't have, DH butts in and looks at me like Im crazy. Apparently SS gave DH the impression that I was being mean the day before and also left out that I gave the DSi back. So DH was pissed. I am just exhausted because Im like WOW you let SS manipulate you again and you got mad at me. So then he asks me to tell him about how I found the lugey in the brush and I tell him the story and how it was hidden under a washcloth and he leaves to talk to SS again. Apparently he believed SS that it was just an accident. If it was an accident, it would have been cleaned out. Then I ask DH what I was saying about BM in front of SS that was making SS mad. DH goes on to say that he was asking SS questions and SS was going along with them. Ok, good, coach your child to tell you what you want to hear so you can blame me for everything.

Last night I come home from work and cook dinner. SS and DH come home and DH and I get to talking and I notice SS is no longer punished (Im livid but whatever), so I ask DH if he found a sitter for SS while we go to the amusement park and he says no. I let him know that it was Thursday night and he might want to get on it. He says he was kinda trying to give SS a chance and told SS on Wednesday that if I said SS could go, he could. It gets tense. WTF???!!! Are you kidding me???!!! No wonder the kid is targeting me. You couldn't have balls and just punish him? Why is it my f****** job? Why am I always the bad guy? So guess what...SS is now going on Saturday because I don't want to be the target anymore (I told SS he could go at dinner and SS had no emotion and didn't even say thank you). And guess what...DH was all rainbows and butterflies after dinner, because he didn't have to punish SS and SS gets to go. I went out with a friend for drinks.

DH thinks everything is ok. This happens all of the time. My SS is targeting me. My DH doesn't want to parent. I am so angry, frustrated and exhausted. Oh and on top of it, DH thinks that SS is ok, SS doesn't need a mental evaluation.