DH and I are total opposite with how we deal with our ex's. DH seems to let his ex get away with anything and everything. And my EX and I deal with things together...and that's how I feel it should be...especially when it's 50/50 custody. I just feel like I'm in control of my life but DH's ex is still in control of his. For an example, last year BM would pick up the skids after school every Wednesday and now that she signed one of the boys up for fall baseball (not discussing it with DH first) we have the skids until after SS's practice on every Wednesday. See, BM has two babies and it seems to be hard for her to keep up with her first kid's activities...sometimes her husband can stay home with their little ones but her husband works nights and I'm sure he works Wednesday nights and that's why she all of a sudden changed the schedule. Anyhow, it just comes down to standing up for what is right and DH's ex is not right in this situation....neither is DH because he can't seem to stick up for what is right, his kids, me or our family as a whole.