It just dawned on me.
Sometimes the big picture of Sparenting can get pretty overwhelming. When this happens maybe we should look at the little moments that can be fun or at least tolerable.
Or visa versa. When the little moments get aggravating maybe we can look at the big picture.
Regardless of the situation there has to be some direction as Sparents that we can look for our blended family adventure to at least be tolerable.
For me, my Skids situation can get extremely aggravating. He is a good kid, smart, well behaved, etc.... But he is absolutely the laziest most immature 18 yo I have ever known and he absolutely will not step up an take control and responsibility for his own life until I apply my foot to his ass. (figuratively of course).
But, I can look at the last 16+ years with pride and fondness of how far he, his mom and I have come as a family.
Just a Hmmmmmm moment for Rags.
Best regards,
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I remember the first time
I remember the first time SD5, who had just turned 4, said, "I love you SteppingUp." I didn't say it first, she just said it to me while we were hanging out one day. I had said it to her before at bed time, but she would always kind of say, "you too" or giggle.
SS3 is a daddy's boy and isn't as openly lovey to others, but every time he wraps his little arms tightly around my neck, or runs to me when he's crying because he's hurt, it fills me up
My moment.. When SD20 had her
My moment..
When SD20 had her baby when she was barely 16 years old, I was Gramma. She never thought twice what my title would be. I was prepared to be called by my first name (BM is very psycho and unstable so SD was taking a chance of momma being real angry with her) and my heart melted.
I've had such a tough time over the last six years, I thought the skids would never turn around but they have. I love them all very much.
That's very sweet.
That's very sweet.
My moment was when both my
My moment was when both my younger skids called me mom with out realizing it.
One of my own cool skid
One of my own cool skid moments was before his mom and I married. My brother and I bought a condo together while we were in college. I am allergic to dogs and cats and my brother wanted a pet so we tried several types of animals. Snake .... not cuddly enough for my bro, birds ... I am the bird guy so the like me and hated my brother ... so we tried a pot belly pig. We named her Vienna (as in the sausage).
V was a great pet. She would snake beer from people when were had poker parties at our condo. When she got hold of a beer she would actually smile once she got a buzz on. We trained her to use a litter box. The problem was that my brother would give her a grape when she would use the box so eventually learned that if she stood in her little box and screamed her head off she would get a grape. There was no peace in our home once she figured that out.
Now for my cool stepdad moment story. My wife and I had been dating for a few months. One evening we were at our condo and the kid dropped his bottle (he was ~18mos old). V grabbed his bottle by the nipple and took off with it. The kid chased the pig around the condo yelling "Daddy Help me, daddy help me, daddy help me". The kid was very upset but the pig was having a great time. All of the adults were cracking up. It took my brother and I sever minutes to catch the pig and rescue the bottle.
That was the second time my skid called me daddy.
His mom nor I ever told him to call me daddy. He just knew that daddy is who I am to him.
Best regards,
I had a pair of cats who
I had a pair of cats who would race like mad to the scratching post each time I walked into the house. I used honey nut cheerios as a reward when they used the post - instead of the furniture- and they got addicted to it. So each time I came through the door they wanted their cheerios.
I liked your insight on focusing on individual areas of success rather than being overwhelmed by big picture. Just started my MBA and frequently find myself using my new found knowledge in areas of life other than business. Like the other day, performed a thorough feasibility analysis on talking to DH about ss college finances and decided probably was not a good idea. ROI was negative.
I love all your stories. I
I love all your stories. I feel like I can relate. My Dh and I are the costodal parents. She calls me mom because she wanted to. No one told her to.
Hhhhmmmmm... my cool stepkid
Hhhhmmmmm... my cool stepkid moment. I am very lucky to have a lot. But the best one was this year. SD is a cheerleader. We went to national and they won first!!! Well we had to wait like 20 min to see her after they won. She comes out and I can see her scanning the crowd for us. The second she see's us she ran past her dad, grandma, uncle, aunt straight into my arms and cried!!! "I did it mom!" That was the most wonderful feeling I have ever felt. It makes the though days worth it.
What an awesome
What an awesome accomplishment for your SD and awesome confirmation of her feelings for you.
Congrats to you both.
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I hope someday I'll have a
I hope someday I'll have a moment... I worry it will never happen. and almost sort of hope it doesn't. Anyone else feels this way.
SD8 then 6 called me mom for about a day (the 2nd day she ever met me before I was married to BD)
Then when she realized she wasn't getting any more attention for it she quit. LOL
Little snot but I'm glad she stopped, to hear "mom" coming out of that little brat's mouth in reference to me was worse than nails down the chalkboard. I'm NOT her mother.
If she was my kid she wouldn't ever act the way she does and in fact when she's with me alone she doesn't.