honey. it was a picture of his daughter. whether it was bin ladin or the devil himself (or herself) the daughter was still in the picture.

the mother alone....okay, i get it. but the daughter still loves mom.

if it makes you feel any better, take a copy of the picture....put the original back...and cut out mom. chop her up. then burn it. then scatter the remains over the ocean. or mix it up in the kitty litter.

I moved into the house that BM and DF bought together...THAT was rough. I still find little "surprises" when I'm cleaning. We just re-did the flooring in our kitchen so we had to pull out the refrigerator. There was a picture of BM with her daughter and a picture of BM and DF. Little stab to the gut...I know that it's nothing I can control but you just can't help feeling like that when you run into these things.

The biggest thing I have learned with this type of thing is just to remember that guys are (usually) lazy. DF doesn't deep clean his junk drawers, I do. So I am going to be the one to find these things. Yours was probably given the picture when things were going well between him and BM and he just slapped another pic on top of it. I always think, it could be worse. You could find nudey pics or something... just sayin!

Kids always have high hopes that their Bio prents will get back together .... She was probably hiding it because she didn't want to upset you.
I say let her keep it and maybe you could even put it in a seperate frame for her. It would make you look like a better person to do that.

that pic would be threw the shredder so fast, your head would spin.

dh probably forgot it was there, don't stress or give him any shit about it. just dispose of it how ever you see fit and move on!!

Still...yeah, those things are unsettling.
My DH and I, before we were engaged, and when we were in a long-distance relationship...I'd been to visit him for a weekend, didn't ruin weekend trip, but after I got back...I finally asked, "How long do we need to be together before you take down the photo of yourself and BM?"
He was genuinely startled...I had to send him out to LOOK at the wall, to see that there was, indeed, a professional photo, of himself and BM (pre-SD's birth) still displayed in his home.
It was gone by my next visit.
Nonetheless, we'd been living together for over a year (and were married) when I asked when he was going to stop displaying souvenirs from his previous honeymoon, in OUR home...again, it had just simply NEVER crossed his mind that these things might hurt me.
Men can be very, very stupid.

When we got married DH has friends that are professional photographers - so we paid for the film they used their own cameras and gave us the rolls to develop. When the dust had settled with me moving 700 miles and DH and I getting a new apartment all in the first month of marriage I took all the rolls and got them developed. Well wouldn't you know it - there was a roll in there from DH and his ex's last Christmas together. I was so pissed because all I could think was why does something like getting our wedding pictures developed turn into me seeing their last Christmas together - why does she keep popping up. I yelled at DH for screwing up and giving me the f___ing roll of film but then I calmed down and really looked at the pictures - and you could tell that DH and BM were not at all happy - the smiles were forced and they both looked miserable. Of course SS was as happy as could be this was right before his world as he knew changed. I threw away the pictures of BM and kept the rest. It got me mad but he did not mean to hurt me this was back then before digital cameras were affordable to everyone these were rolls of film so he did not know what was on it. I have a few rolls from my 20's that I won't have developed because God know what is on them - lol

I also found the diary from DH and his ex's wedding day and honeymoon - I was so pissed - I did not say a word but several years later he was cleaning out the cabinet and found it took one look at it and promptly threw it away. I said to him I wondered when you were going to throw that away - he said I did not realize it was there sorry. I also have thrown away every letter, picture, and tape that his various girlfriends have given him throughout his life. I actually burned most of them right after giving birth so I am going to blame it on the hormones. I feel I am the last one and there is no point in keeping all that crap. I have kept nothing from ex's and I don't think he should either.

I think that anytime you find photos of the BM with the kids they should be allowed to keep them. Even photos before the divorce should be saved for the kids. My soon to be X-BM once gave my soon to be XH a suitecase for Christmas and in one of the pockets was a photo album of some of his frinds the kids and ONE photo of just her... I should of known then to run like hell... No silly me I stuck around until I found a nude photo of XBM on his phone a few weeks ago... Photos with the kids are ok, but when they become photos of just her yeah not ok in the least.

Shortly after we got engaged, DH and I had a ceremonial burning of the others pasts - i.e., all pix of exes, all love letters, etc.

I made the mistake of reading one from BM to him. Made me ill. She is/was such a tramp. Ish. I can't even tell you about the stuff she was talking about! I'd probably get kicked off the site.

I did find a poem he wrote about their love blah blah just the other week. BUT, I also found about 50 poems about how horrible and crazy she was, so I let it slide!

Sounds to me like he wanted a pic of his kid, that was what he had, he got a new better one and just put it in front of the old one. I do that all the time, so does my mother. She gave me some of her old picture frames (with her choice of pics in them , of course) and when i was putting new pics in the frames i found literally stacks of pics from the 80s and 90s behind the ones that were showing. It was like a perfect chronology of my family, every few pics a new baby was shown and the original babies kept getting bigger and older lol! I wouldnt read too much into it. It also sounds like you were just startled to be staring into bm's smiling face unexpectadly, which is no crime.

When my DH moved in he brought box's of framed photo's with the BM with the skids in them. I told him not on my walls! Pic's of her were removed, I don't care what he does with them, but I don't want to see them. I have pic's with my ex but they are all boxed up for the kids when they grow up. Both DH and I allow skid's to have a pic of BP in their bedrooms. Which is fine with me cause I can't go in my SD room, she has a cat and I'm allergic so I don't have to worry about spending time in there and having to stare at that ugly woman. Woman is being nice...I could say so much worse, but I'm going to be nice today.

Hahahaa, so when I moved into my fiance's house (he bought it well before the ex moved in) I found her underwear drawer with her "nicest" granny underpants she left behind...Don't quite know what the message there was...I thought it was weird and gross.

I'm not sure throwing out the children's pictures of their mother is the right thing to do. Fine for your husband to rip them up, but really, really wrong to tell children it isn't ok to have pictures of their BM. Great way to get them to hate you, and give you a hard time. Good luck with that.

My DH brought more boxes from storage and there were cruise pictures of him and BM. Very unsettling for me as I knew the SD would probably grab them and put them up in her room. Luckily that did not happen DH threw them in the trash but she did find cards they had given each other years ago and tried putting them in our office. I told her I did not want to see any of that stuff, if she wanted it she had to keep it in her room nowhere else! She was not happy about that, but she had a choice trash or her room. My true choice was the trash. Why SD16 wants to live in the past is beyond me. Pic's of her mom in her room I can understand but it's been 4 years it's time to move on! Mind you DH asked me as all of this was going on "what is wrong" really! You need me to spell it out for you, I want nothing to do with going down memory lane with you and skid's going through box's of stuff that partly belonged to BM!!!! Ugh!!!