Halloween Costumes
Who pays for the Halloween costumes in your situation? Does the parent that gets the child for that holiday pay?
My DH has been buying SDs Halloween costumes for her since she was 3. Even on the years he doesn't get to have her. SD is almost 9 now. We have her this year so I guess this vent is stupid. But every other year that we haven't had her, DH has taken SD to the Halloween City Store and paid for her costume. I think if SD is going to be doing the Trick Or Treating with her mother, then the BM should pay for the costume. I'm happy that DH is so involved with SD but on the other hand, I see this as an opportunity for BM to not have to pay for something- once again.
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We always paid for the
We always paid for the costumes. On the years BM had him, she would call and tell DH she didn't have to the time to go to the store and he had to "work with her on this one" by going to the store and buying it. It gets old.
Nope the bm buys them when
Nope the bm buys them when she has them! However she pawns them off on us EVERY year for Halloween b/c she is too lazy to take them. So we buy them anyway! This year dh told bm that it is HER time and she needs to take it. She got upset but she is taking them. I don't know if they have a costume, bm hasn't said anything.
At least she pawns them off
At least she pawns them off on you. When ours was still of that age, she would make a BIG deal out of having him. We founf out because she was too damn lazy to open the door...she would make him dress up to hand out candy!!!!!!!!!!
WOW! Did I mention one time
WOW! Did I mention one time that I was going to stir anything with my DH? I haven't said a word to him about me disagreeing with it and I hadn't planned on it either. I am not "trying to get support to change it to be that way" I was asking what other people did in this situation and I also shared what my DH does and what I think BM should do
Calm down
LaMareOssa - this year I got
LaMareOssa - this year I got DD and I costumes at a garage sale for $1 apiece - I am going to be a pumpkin and she is going to be a green M&M - I get your point about the cost - they can get quite costly - DD wanted to be Scooby this year but the costume was $35.00 I said no way - lucky for me she wants to be a green M&M
M&M Cute! Unfortunately, DH
M&M Cute! Unfortunately, DH always buys SD whatever costume she wants..Also, I have suggested he go to a smaller, less pricey store such as K-Mart or Walmart for the kids' costumes. NO way.. He insists on taking the children to a specialty store like Halloween City where their prices are much higher (for the same costume) then the regular stores.
Target has great costumes
Target has great costumes this year - he should check it out! It is kinda a waste of money you wear it one year and it is then old and won't be worn again - it sux that you have to buy a new one every tear.
Caregiver you are so like me
Caregiver you are so like me that is what I do. But of course I 'collect' costumes I have to huge bins full so we "shop" from those bins. LOL I love yards sales and thrift stores. I have found new costumes with the tags still on them.
When my daughter turned 3 I
When my daughter turned 3 I made everyone buy her princess costumes so that when she had 3 or 4 girls over for a playdate then there would be enough to go around. I have so many costumes now that for the past 2 years she has worn these - if the M&M costume had not been $1 she would still be a princess this year.
Yep I did the same thing with
Yep I did the same thing with my kids when they were younger. And at that age they don't care really. I love that age for certain things but then I remember the other things that went with at age and think goodness mine are teens. LOL
I'm torn between costumes for
I'm torn between costumes for DD7months. Did you see the Banana costume at Target? Or there's a little plush football, and DH could go as a quarterback. Or I could, I guess. I usually go as the Wicked Witch of the West, though, and I make my dogs go as Flying Monkeys.
We're going tomorrow, so I better get my grits in gear and decide. I'm leaning towards the banana because she loves the Chiquitas! And of course because she's roly poly chubby, so it would be just too adorable.
In a nutshell, we do. SS12
In a nutshell, we do.
SS12 does this really cool Hallowe'en thing with his stepdad at BMs house every year, but they will only take him once a month, so if they got him a costume, they'd be all picked over. Plus, they can't really afford it. And I don't want his costume to suck.
SD8 has always been with us for Hallowe'en, but BM asked for her this year (diff BM) and I thought it might be fun for her to spend it there, since she has 4 sibs from that BM that live there (they're not DH's). Her mom has her EOWE, so I told her over a month ago that she needed to get her a costume if she wanted her for Hallowe'en.
BM3 doesn't celebrate Hallowe'en, so we always have SD3.5. I was going to take her to get a costume this weekend. Still am. Tomorrow. But I just got a text from BM3 (we are friends) saying that she lost custody of her son, age 10, who is SD3.5s older brother. She has been in court for a while. This time, though, no hearing, no court date. Just a flat decision. Her XH got a lawyer, got full custody. She now gets 2 weekends a month plus one shared. They do NOT co parent. So in short, if she asks for SD3.5, of course I would say yes. She's not in a good place right now. She's an awesome mom, and there's no reason to ever deny her parenting time if she wants it. I'm sad for her today.
So, anyway, while it would be fun and gratifying to stick it to the BMs that are deadbeats, we realize it's about the kids, and we just pony up the stupid costumes.