SS16 should get a job and buy the car himself and show that he can pay the insurance and for gas. Went through this with my SS and he swore he would get a job to pay for gas and insurance. Never happened and guess what - we SOLD it!

Tough, now he has no car and if he wants one he is on his own. This buy now pay later does not work. Let him save up and get his own car.

We went through this. SD17 rarely works and hasn't saved a penny of her OWN money in her life. At any given time, SD17 has more than $100 in cash in her purse. Where does she get all this money? Well, her stepdad's parents give money to all the grandkids and don't want to "leave SD out." BM's parents slip SD money, and I found out DH was doing it as well. BUT, when it came time to buy a car, SD17 had only $1000 of her OWN money to spend, which actually was all money given as gifts by other people. BM told her she'd chip in up to $2000, and we came through with a measly (in everyone's opinion but mine) $500. SD got a small truck.

Then, last month, the car suddenly needed $1100 in repairs and yep, you guessed it, everyone but ME expected DH to chip in. Why are SD's car repairs his responsibility? She isn't working, she can ride the bus to school. I say car needs to sit until SD17 can work and earn the money. Nope. Car was bailed out by the time the repairs were complete and SD17 is back to driving. DH gave her SOME money (at least $200) and she claimed she only had $550 of her own money, so where did the rest come from?

I cannot WAIT until SD is actually held responsible for something, anything. She doesn't even pay her own car insurance because BM is afraid SD will NOT pay it and get in an accident and BM will be held responsible (SD is on her policy).

We went through this this summer with SS16 - BM told him that we were going to pay for half of his car - we don't have the money and SS refuses to get a car - BM called up DH and demanded all this money - DH told her I pay CS if you want more take me to court. She won't - so she bought SS a car (well more like the rich married boyfriend that she has bought him a car) and now SS has a car but no money for gas and BM pays for his insurance - you can say no that is what DH said - no - I think we would have helped him a little if he had tried to get a job but he has no intention of ever getting a job so we are not helping him. BM then tried to tell DH she is not paying for half of SS's travel which is stupid because she won't take us to court for CS - so we send a check every month and we are the ones who decide how much we send - her and DH decided on an amount a few years ago and every time she tries to get more money DH says take me to court and we are not quite sure why but she won't so we say NO NO NO.

My DH went so far as to tell SS that if he got a job for every hour he worked he would give him $2 extra dollars so if he work 20 hours a week by the end of the month DH would send him a check for $240.00 to help pay for car insurance and gas. I told DH don't worry you won't be sending him any money he is not going to get a job - BM is not pushing him to and so he will not do it on his own - we are 700 miles away and can do nothing about it. I have asked him why he won't get a job and he says it interfers with his weekends and friday nights - I just shake my head and say nothing I am all talked out about the subject. When did having a car at 16 become a right and not a privilege - if you work for a car you totally deserve on - if you don't work then you get a car when you eventually work as an adult and buy your own.

So you and DH stand firm and tell him no job no car!!

My SS got a brand new Mustang GT when he turned 16 and then for high school graduation, he got a brand new Charger with a hemi. Now BM purchased these and she covers the cost of all repairs, gas & insurance because we sure as heck wouldn't be paying for it. But god forbid she actually put money towards his college education . The poor kid is going to graduate with a degree in communication with more than $40,000 in student loans.
We helped when we could but he wouldn't take us up on our offer of paying for community college for the first 2 years and then transferring.

OMG when we were looking into insurance for SS around the time he turned sixteen we were FLOORED at how expensive it is. An actual car turned out the be the smaller problem, the ongoing insurance was the big question. Needless to say SS didn't want to have to do anything (good grades, chores, a job) to pay for any of it so he didn't get a car. Or a license for that matter.

I don't know what is going to happen when my ss turns 16 in a year. WHY? B/C bm has already been throwing a fit about dh buying him a car um yes she wants him to pay for it all! See the thing is that my kids are older and I already bought their cars (which they were very thankful for) They pay their ins. and gas and stuff not mommy. Anyway before I came along bm aunt said she will buy the boys a car b/c she wanted to. Now she bought ss15 a truck already however once bm found out I bought my kids a car she went on a rant about how dh HAS to buy the boys a car too! Dh asked her about aunt and the truck she already bought, bm said well she wants to buy them but you still have to buy them since purpledaisies kids got one. Dh told her that purple bought those cars and he had nothing to do with it! It was purples money not his! Of course bm doesn't care she said so. She still thinks dh should buy the boys a car too. What are they going to do with 2 cars at the age of 16???? Really??? So in a year I'll be posting about how bm is ranting and raving about ss16 getting a car and wanting dh to pay for the whole thing while he already has a truck.