I am a newbie here and so relieved to have found this place! I got married 2 1/2 months ago. My husband is absolutely wonderful (as a husband). But he has a 12 1/2 (going on 6) year old daughter. She is spoiled, lazy, demanding, manipulative, clingy, selfish, jelous, etc. My husband was never married to BM. Frankly, back then,he was a manwhore (I mean this in the nicest way), your typical bachelor enjoying his bachelorness. BM pretty much stalked DH until he gave in and after several "interludes" fueled by alcohol, he insanely told her he wanted her to have his baby. The result of that moment of stupidity is my SD. Anyway, they ended up moving in together and 4 years ago, he left her. He says he never loved BM. He was trying to do the best thing for his daughter. It was basically a roommate type relationship. To him. But not to BM. I will go into more detail about her at another time.

It has been a big adjustment this last couple of months. My DH and I were dating for 2 years before we got married. To protect his daughters feelings, I didn't meet her until we had been seeing each other for almost a year. And then he told her I was just a friend. Also, he didn't want word getting back to BM that there was another woman in his life. (She still wants him back.)
I have never met BM face to face. I have seen pics of her on facebook, etc. I've been told that she hates me. I'm ok with that. I am not real crazy about her either. She has taught SD everything she knows. (manipulation, spitefulness, jeolousy, etc.)

BM works shift work so our lives are pretty much ruled by her work schedule. When she works the night shift (every other 3 months) SD lives with us 6 days out of the week. When she works the day shift SD lives with BM 5 days a week. Although BM tries to pawn SD on us all she can. It's a constant battle.

Anyway, enough for now. I'll vent more later.