Pregnant 15yr old stepdaughter
There's no way to let it sound better - my 15yr old stepdaughter is pregnant!!! I can't believe that in South Africa, I mean our Aids figure is skyhigh, she can still have unprotected sex... Didn't her mother taught her anything?
The thing is I saw it coming a few years back already. She's living with her mother and I have to say, that lady's moral standards are not what it must be.I persume it's like mother like daughter. I know I sound like the wicked stepmother. She's a very pretty girl but she's a bit slutty, and so is her mother. I'm sorry to say that and I wish it wasn't the case. At her mother's house she can do what she like when she like. There's no routine and no discipline at all. She's actually running the household not her mom and stepdad. To top it all, she can't afford to be pregnant. I mean that her body and mind is not right for it. I know that no 15yr old is ready for something like that but she's worse - she's got Biopolar Disorder, she tried to commit suicide twice last year, apart from that, she's always in hospital if it's not the one thing it's the other. She's really not a healthy girl and she's really very, very thin...
I really feel sorry for her but I think she's using her circumstances to get attention. Her mom and dad divorced six years ago.Since then she's constantly seeing a psycologist. If a psycologist give her advice that she doesn't like, she convince her mother and father that the psycologist doesn't understand her etc,etc..and then she goes to the next one.
Me and my husband had a bit of a fight last night as I think that he has to do something. One way or another he has to discipline her. We are not seeing a lot of her because she's living 600km from us. But that's no excuse for turning a blind side on things. He feels that he have no control over things as she's living with her mom and things are the way they are there.
Last month her mother phone my husband - they couldn't pay the rent for the month and was now threatened with eviction. To make a long story short, who paid the rent at the end of the day? Guess? Us.
I know it sound a bit confusing but I'm so relieved to finally let it all out that I don't know where to begin or where to end.
I also told my husband last night that I'm not going to look after the baby and that I'm not going to allow him to support the baby financially. I feel this happened while she was under her mother's care and under her mother's roof - SHE'S RESPONSIBLE! I would really love to have a baby of my own not so far in the future so for me it is not open for discussion.
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I was in a similar situation
I was in a similar situation as well. SD got pregnant at 16 (predicted by me when she was 8 ). We pay half of medical expenses so I KNOW that she was getting BC bought for her. I personally believe that she did it to try to assert her independence from BM.
Somehow between the time that BM kicked her out at 15 to live with us (3 days later, BM threatened to call the cops if we didn't bring her back) and now, SD and BM have become BFF and SD refuses to talk to us.
BM had SD when SHE was 16 so it's just history repeating itself.
And, H had to pay for half of her huge pregnancy and emergency c-section bills too. BM tried to get him to pay for the baby as well but I put a stop to that. The baby's father can be on the hook, not the mother's father!
i worry about this issue with
knowing what i know off of it, hopefully sd and biodad will sign over custody rights to the child to someone if not in the family, give it up for adoption, but if not, make her live with poor choices and raise the child
that would honestly be grounds for me and my dh taking bm back to court for custody rights since that would prove no dicipline or boundaries given at home, and i've seen it done, only then would i support the child.