:? I don't really know where to begin...I'll just start when we were dating. Okay, when my husband & I first started dating, i met his daughter(she was 1 & a half yrs old at the time). She began to get use to me being around after i spent time with her when she visited every weekend (he wud to pick her up fridays after work & take her home sunday evenings), he always brought her clothes, pull ups, cups & whatever else she needed.(he wasn't on cs). I bonded really well with her, i bathed her for him, fed her & played with her. As our relationship got more serious he started getting her every other wknd instead so we cud spend more time together(my request). The bm started going off on him through texts(i guess cuz she was mad i came into the picture).He brushed it off & life moved on, then eventually things started getting shakey between my bf at the time & i,so he asked me for time apart, we got back together & i got pregnant. When his bm found out she then put him on cs ,out of anger i guess? He was upset i was pregnant, we argued after i told him, then he texted his bm that night & i saw a text with him telling her "i didnt want n e more kids right now & that her wanted to get back with her"....my heart was broken when i saw it & he called her to let her try to explain to me they had nothing goin on & he was just mad thats y him & her were texting(i still dont beleive it)& ever since then i can not trust their communication)But we got married while i was 8months pregnant(Nov.08)she would often ask him to buy pull ups for his daughter even though he pays $400 a month in cs. I've gotten upset bcuz of this when he likes to spend extra $ on clothes & stuff when he already pays cs. Well eventually she started disrespecting me when she couldn't have her way & he never put his foot down about it so i took over the matter & told him we are not buying n e thing extra (besides birthday & christmas gifts & food when she visits & for family outings)i had him tell her to lose his # & she started calling me & texting me when it was time for his daughter to visit every other wknd & sometimes we'd get along & other times she'll have a bad attitude & we'd argue then she'd say his daughter isnt coming to visit. Over the years my huband & I changed the visitation schedule to us picking her up every other saturday morning & bringing her home sunday evening @ 6/7p. So sometimes she wouldnt pick up the phone & we'd end up taking her home @ 10 at night & got fed up cuz we had work the next day & didnt want to be up that late. So we told her that were now gonna pick her up on Sunday mornings & bring her home sunday night & not to mention we had to remind her every other wknd to put (decent clothes in her bookbag, a tooothbrush & pjs) she always says " yall always requesting shit!" like isn't she suppose to send these things??? so last year she stop letting her visit us for about 6months cuz she didnt want to cooperate. recently her & my mother n law have been talking, shes been lying to my mom n law telling her that im the cause of y me & her wud always agrue so thats y she stop letting her daughter visit, she a liar, i wud only curse her out when she started with me, so now my mother n law has been behind my back talking to this bm & getting his daughter every wknd & she's been beleving her mess & telling my husband not to let me handle the situation n e more, they have been filling my husband head up with crap & she is even upset we dont have a picture on the wall of his daughter (the bm has not given us one), my mother n law does not visit my kids (oh yeah, we had anohter baby in 2010)she says were keeping them away? how? she's full of it too. The same way you ask her to bring my sd5 is the same way you should ask us to bring my bio kids to come spend time with you. Im just so stressed cuz i cant trust my husband communicating with her (his mom got him to give the bm his # so they cud communicate), & i dont feel like my mother n law care about my kids like she does his 1st daughter. ive been so down n out lately. & constanlty thinking of fututre isses thats gonna happen with this blended family. & im only 21 years old!!!!!they think im treating his daughter different than mine. I dont! finiancially we dont buy the stuff we buy for them cuz he pays cs but physically, emotionally & mentally i do not treat her different. whats wrong here????