Been there!!!! Tell him all about it!!!

Wow. Just over 4 months to go!

There are SO many posters on this site who have Hs who do that exact same thing. I wonder why that is...

And it is not confined to just men either. But to what purpose? It doesn't make the situation better. It creates ANOTHER situation with ANOTHER person who is now pissed at you.

Way to go, buddy.

I am slowly letting H back into my life but it is on MY terms now. I OWN the place I am living in (not jointly) and if he comes to my place, it is because I am ALLOWING it. It is a whole new dynamic in our relationship and he is VERY much willing to hear me out now!!

Sometimes this happens with DH and me...but he usually doesn't get mad at BM- I do! He is really good at blocking out her nonsense where I'm the one who gets frustrated with her. Anyway, I mentioned this once to my MIL and she said she thought the reasoning might be bc I am his wife- for better or worse. He can tell me how it is and know that I will still love him and be there for him...Whereas if he attacked BM or seriously told her how he thought in a negative light or tone, she would be real quick to hold their son over his head and file court papers. Not that it would get her anywhere as she has already tried to take away visitation when an incident happened the the Judge told her ALL about herself, which was great and we got more time with SS (that could be good or bad on my end haha)...anyway, maybe he just feels more comfortable with you and showing his emotions good or bad bc he knows he can. Not that it is a great excuse but with blended families, we all have to be willing to take the beating sometimes I think

Oh Shaman29....I agree you seem to be the scapegoat a lot I follow your posts...It is hard to be a scape goat..."baaaa baaaa baaa baaa" (Im speaking "scapegoat" to you...meaning "I feeeeeeel your pain sister!"... lol!)
I just dont get this kind of behavior....use a little vid recorder when DH is acting an a$$ (they make small cheap ones) Confront DH after you have a few of these and let him "see" just how he acts...In my home I think that my DH is soooo pissed off about whatever has happened at the hands of my SD (that HE ALLOWED) that he is looking for someone else to put his anger on....My DH would act this way to my bio's...his LilPrincess would have done what ever...gotten her a$$ chewed by me (because DH wouldnt) and DH would walk over and find something to "get on to" my bio's about...I blew my top not long back and got DH's attention big time when I walked up and videoed this BS (on my blkberry phone)...Then as DH begain to overstep just a little tooooooo far with my bio's I tapped him on the shoulder...Confronted Dh about this issues again....DH denied it AGAIN...I pointed out the behavior AGAIN...and on and on..LET DH tell me how it was me and how I was wrong...how HE didnt do that type of behavior....blah blah blah...I LET DH dig a deeeeep hole...then I popped the BlkBerry video on my laptop.....played the event that HAD JUST occured...Jaw Dropppppp!! Yep DH looked like the fool he was! NOW DH cant deny this behavior...DH has stopped this blame shifting pretty much BUT I disengaged about that time...so maybe DH doesnt have a "reason" to defend his LP because I have not been "getting on to" SD? I have proof of the bad behavior on DH's part....Atleast DH did admit he was shifting blame and was WRONG because he was mad at SD! Im sick of the scape goat game toooooooo!! baaaaaaaaa baaaaaaaaa baaaaaaaaaa baaaaaaaaaaa baaaaa baaaaaaaaa!