Today the issues surrounding FSD's dance recital reached a point where I am considering ending my engagement.

I asked FDH if he wanted to go to a sporting event on Sunday. He told me that he couldn't because FSD has a dance recital. I was completely taken aback. This was the first I heard about this dance recital. This was pretty much our conversation ...

Me: I'm really hurt that you didn't invite me to FSD's dance recital
FDH: Aw, I'm sorry baby
Me: ... then invite me
FDH: I'll look into it. I just don't feel like dealing with BM's mom
Me: So let me get this straight,I plan activities for FSD9, I buy her presents for her birthday, host her birthday party, planning it, buying decorations, making cupcakes , I buy her Christmas presents, babysit her when you are puttering around the house, and help her with her homework but I am excluded from the dance recital because you don't feel like getting involved?!
FDH: You don't get it BM's mom is insane
Me: I don't care, you are allowed to take your fiance to your daughter's dance recital
FDH: Ok, I'll try to get you a ticket. I love you so much

I am livid. My entire married life just flashed before my eyes with me sitting at home because FDH doesn't want to deal with BM and her mom. I have been in his daughter's life, taking care of her, putting in the time and the money. I refuse to participate in a double standard where I am expected to help with her but denied access to fun events.

I highly doubt that FDH will get me a ticket to this dance recital. I guess we will see. I'm really hurt and I think I need to evaluate if this is the kind of thing I want to involve myself in for the rest of my life. A problem with FSD9 has never made me this aware of just how difficult my life with FDH will be.