I respect people who know their own limitations and dont' give in to the pressures of society to have children just because it's the thing to do.

Not everyone is meant for it. I love my kids, wouldn't change for a second my choice to have them but the truth is I am really not a kid person.

I just can't imagine someone knowing that they never want kids and ending up with steps. Talk about a nightmare !

I was told I would never have a child and that didn't really bother me, until surprise! At the moment I was told I was pregnant, I panicked. I repect that you know your own limitations but as I was told Never say Never. Most people don't think that they want or are ready for children until sudden one day, they are.

You call, no judgement here. Sounds like you have your hands full with the skids you have now.

Be happy life is short. I think that is all any of us want.

I don't think that's odd at all If I hadn't had an oops I didn't plan on having kids myself. I never fault any people who don't want kids... that's their perogative. There's life that you miss out on when you have kids and vise versa. IMO, you do what makes you and your husband happy. Only you alone know the desire for children or not.

Just as a note, I HAD wanted kids until I got skids... it made me question my whole maternal insticts and if I could possibly be a parent since I don't love them unconditionally. Whatever you do, don't let that guide you... the love you have for your own biological baby and maternal insticts will be totally different. That's what I learned in my experience.

I am a BM although my two children were COMPLETELY unplanned and I'm not the "coochie coo" type.

I admire those who have the good sense NOT to breed. Although I love my children very much (they are now grown), the dirty little secret is that if you ARE parenting correctly, the aggrevation, stress and worry FAR overshadows the "cute" moments.

If child rearing is a "breeze" for you and you are your "child's best friend" then U R DOING IT WRONG!

See link: http://www.childfree.net/potpourri_annlanders.html

I don't think it's weird that you don't want kids. Everyone is different. I think it might make being a stepparent harder, though unless you are up for the challenge. I always was around kids, loved kids, wanted kids when dh and I got married. I thought being a sm would be fine since I loved kids, right? Omg. I enjoy children always have, but being a sm is way harder than I thought. I couldn't imagine going into a relationship with a man wih kids & not liking kids. To me that would just make things so much harder. No judgement though. You must be a strong woman to accept that challenge. I would think for most people not wanting kids ever then being with someone who already has kids would be a deal breaker? It'd be like me wanting kids and marrying a man who didn't want kids. Idk your situation, though. What does your SO think?

To bring a child into the world is a deeply personal decision. That said, it's astonishingly counter-normative NOT to, and those of us who are childless by choice (I count myself in this group) are subject to additional...curiosity. I don't inherently dislike children, but I think it's natural not to immediately warm to someone else's. Evolutionarily speaking, the "natural" course has already provided one biological father and one biological mother. I think that's what makes being a SM so difficult; it just doesn't seem natural. My point is that, if I read you right, you are definitely not alone - even on this site - and that for me, a critical point to my relationship's survival is that my SO accepts my choice and allows that there is going to be some difficulty in my direct relationship with his kids. Knowing this, we've made considerable effort to take things slowly -- I confess hopefully so slowly that his kids will be out the door before we think about marriage. Being thoughtful about this decision seems wise (i.e., kids are forever, so think it over), and if your partner supports where you are, so much the better.

I did not meet my husband til I was 34 and he is older than I and we did not have any children of our own. I adore children very, very much and so enjoy my role as a Gma to my husbands 8 gkids. We talked about possibly having children before we married so the "door was open" from DH otherwise I would not have married him. I had accepted the fact (before I met my husband) that I was not going to have a child and I was okay with that. I occassionally regret that I did not have a chance to have a baby and experience the bliss that motherhood brings. But when I get to feeling down I spend a few hours with some or all of the gkids and then I feel much better. It is very nice to enjoy the gkids for awhile but then go home to my quiet, peaceful, childfree home

I told my mom 8 years ago that I didn't want kids. I convinced DH to get snipped 3 years ago. Now? I'm 36, and thinking "it wouldn't be so bad..." but it's too late. I actually enjoy having SD15 around.

Then I realize that I have never changed a diaper in my whole life. Screeching kids annoy the hell out of me. I don't know what to do with an infant or a toddler. I would be almost 60 before I could launch a kid from college.

Where would our retirement come from if we had kids now? As it stands, SD15 will be independent while we're still in our working prime. (DH agrees, no handouts once she's out of college, degree or not) We have a plan to retire at a decent age, with a decent nest egg, no relying on Social Security. How many people can say that?

I never thought I'd have a skid, let alone a skid full time, but that's exactly what we're gearing up to do - life happens.

I'm childfree, I have zero interest in kids and do not want any of my own.

it's a dilemma, do I keep seeing someone who was stupid rough to breed,or do I look for a guy with no kids?

right now I'm in love so it's an easier call...but dating a guy with kids is a HUGE deal to me.

I don't have or want any...so I get ya

I am Happily Childfree and would not change it for anything!

No offense but not sure why you care about the opinions of others on this site whether or not you are a Bio parent or not...I use this site as a common place to vent and share blended situations and it's struggles . The fact of the matter is i happen to have a man i love and who loves me tons who was previously married and unfortunately did breed with the broad!

The decision to have kids does not out trump those who decided not to have kids. Personally if I ever found myself single again I know I would not date a man with children or especially young children for it does make for an even more challenging scenario when you like a child free lifetyle- however my scenario is no more challenged than those on here that are Bio moms who happen to struggle even more than I do as a non parent....