I'm gonna just run through this real quick(not) so I can get on with posting whats going on in "the now"!

So, I started dating my FH & BM was a stage 5 cling-on. She was so far up his butt it woulda took major surgery(or me) to remove her. They lived separately, she got him to come back home for the kids, they hated each other, he bought his own house. We started dating & we kept me a secret from her. He always said he didn't think she would react positively to him dating. Boy, were we right!

I dated him for MONTHS while BM constantly called FH & acted as if they were still in a relationship, only they didn't have sex, they didn't tell each other they even liked each other. FH never gave hBM a reason to think there was even hope for them. Yet, she still hung on with her ferocious claws. We would go on dates or I would be at his house & she would call, text, call, text, relentlessly. It made me quite crazy myself. I had a hard time dealing with all the bs in the beginning & I stopped talking to him a few times in the beginning, but my heart kept drawing me back to FH.

FH told BM about me, finally, & she wigged out. Asked all kinds of questions about me & was going to have me investigated...for God's sake. I put a "friend request" out to FH on facebook, knowing that BM made & controlled the page(of course). Within the hour, she was messaging me. I will post this later! We exchanged messages there, then she started texting me in the middle of the night, first thing in the morning, all saying she was having sex with FH & that he was going to be breaking up with me anytime bc of her. She threatened to make my life miserable, should I choose to stay. I'm not much for drama or confrontation, but I decided to let her bring it on & basically told her to pack a lunch!

So, and this is a great story, but I'm gonna have to give you the short version....he wouldn't break up with me, she threatened to kill herself, while the kids were there & wanted him to come in the morning & get them so they wouldn't see it.... She of course, did that for attention & attention was what she got! From the police & the hospital psych evaluator! They let her go home, she went back & forth between threatening me & being happy he was with someone as nice as me... Then she just had enough & after months of threatening to kill me in various way such as, pouring gas down my throat & lighting it on fire, impaling me with a broom handle, slitting my throat, etc., she decided that wasn't working so she wrote up a contract. Said it was done by a lawyer, but it soooo wasnt. Basically asked for about a quarter of a million dollars...??...and set a date for him to sign it. He didn't & told her he woudln't, she flipped & said she was going to kill me in front of him, then kill him. Well, after months of talking to a lawyer who kicks ass, we called her & went to the police. Lawyer called police, had her thrown in jail for phone harassment & disorderly conduct! Yay! We ended up in a court battle with her, that we won, she has had a psych eval, we got an op, then dropped that & now have a No Contact Clause rewrote in the divorce decree. She can only email FH once a week, strictly about the childrens well being, is to have absolutely no contact otherwise with him & NONE with me. She has moved 4 hours away & she only gets to see the kids every other weekend, which won't last long i'm sure, bc she will end that.

So, now I just get to deal with the bs that BM puts in the emails every week, which she violates bigtime, and hear what the kids say she says or does. It's kind of interesting & fun now! I did, in the beginning, fear for my life, but now I realize she nuthin but a big ole ball of hot gas. Dangerous, I'm sure if she were pushed, but I'm not in fear anymore & I refuse to be ever again.

So, hopefully tomorrow I can start posting some of her ramblings. This site just feels so good!!!! It's like a huge weight off my back & a breath of fresh delicious air!