Ok, im prob just spouting out random mentalness now but....
Do you ever wonder if its you? I mean after all, SO doesnt seem as bothered that BM is beating the SKIDS, shouting at them and anybody worth shouting at, frightening them and blaming everybody else, not giving them proper meals at meal times... he had to be forced to call social services after months of hearing how bad things were getting from the SKIDS and after taking SD8 to the dr because she had lost so much weight and was misserable!...And he only called them AFTER IT AFFECTED HIM!! - it wasnt until she cut his contact with them over xmas that he actually got bothered enough to do anything!!!
IS IT ME???
Social services had a nice lil chat with her on the phone and think BM is quite charming actually and couldn't possibley flip her lid and go NUTS!!!
IS IT ME???
The school think that BMs a lovely woman, class rep, helps at the school fair, does book club... the SKIDS have always just looked skinny so thats just the way they look... You can count the ribs on SD8 and see all the contours in her little spine too when shes getting changed for p.e. At one point she had a horrid drawn pale look which showed off the dark circles around her red looking eyes so perfectly! Her teacher says "theres nothing of her"- but thats FINE!!!!
MAYBE ITS ME???
Shes such a fantastic Brownie leader! Especially dragging SS5 along and telling him to sit in the corner with his DS and stay out of the way because hes not a girl so shouldnt be there and NO hes not allowed to go to his fathers house on brownie nights, despite him begging to be allowed to go, of course that would then mean that SD8 wouldnt want to go to BMs precious brownies either!
IT IS ME!!!
I can see all this and want something done for those poor messed up SKIDS. But why cant anybody else??? AM I TOO FUSSY?? Whats a few beatings and lack of food, and emotional torment to a couple of lil kids ay?
Clearly my standards for parenting are far too high and I need to lower them and start not feeding my daughter properly and beating her just for good measure to fit in with what is acceptable for the modern parent! Oh and keep my house SPOTLESS ... but not bother to wash my kids coat, buy her shoes that fit or actually show her any love and affection AT ALL! (unless in public when people might be watching)
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THIS I know it's hard but in
THIS
I know it's hard but in this situation you have to say...not my kid not my problem. Bm thinks she is moty but when it comes to the hard important stuff she stinks. This is where you let go. Give the skids what you can but its not likely you'll influence parenting methods. Dh may eventually come round to yours but bm won't.
If the kids are malnourished then get a doctor to diagnose that. It's the best way for others to take you seriously.
Hugs...this is a hard one to accept...it feels like failing them...but really your saving yourself. You can't save them from their mom.
Is it you or is it me?I feel
Is it you or is it me?I feel for you!Last weekend i helped SD8 study for history test at school,tried to help as much as possible because if she went back to her BM without knowing the material of the test she whould be beaten up.
The kid learned the material by hard and when she went back to her mom she complened about me not letting her watch cartoons and the BM complened to my boyfriend.When the kid took the test she got a A(it was the firt time ever).
Forgive me for my English,i am Greek.
Keep calling CPS. Sooner or
Keep calling CPS.
Sooner or later the case will go to a worker who isn't too lazy to go out and LOOK at and speak to the kids.
If all goes well, those kids will be pulled from mom and dad. Mom for mistreating them and dad for ignoring it.
I agree, keep calling. Take
I agree, keep calling. Take pictures. Don't give up on them, it sounds like they really need someone willing to fight for them. They need you in their lives!