When I met my husband I knew he had kids because it's one of the first things he told me. I had always told myself I would never date anyone with kids because I didn't want to deal with the typical "Baby Mama" drama,but as time went on, friendship grew into love and I found myself in love with this man no matter the circumstances. He had a 12 yr old son and an 8 year old daughter. Before our relationship ever became official I asked him if he had any problems with his kids mothers as they do have two different moms,he assured me that he did not. His son's mom had passed away years after they had split,his son was 5 at the time. He split with his daughters mom when she was just 2 months old. He did admit to having some problems with his daughters mom in the beginning but she changed and things were all better now.

In the beginning all was well. I met his son and we 3 spent time together went places together,etc. It took awhile to meet his daughter because with both our jobs and different schedules I didn't have the weekends off that he did when he had her to meet her so I only got to hear her voice when he talked to her over the phone and as she would say "I love you daddy" I thought that is such a cute,sweet voice. When I did meet her things went extremely well! She liked me and always wanted to talk to me and watch movies with me and we would take both kids here and there,things were wonderful.......until more time passed and I noticed how my husband had the "my kids do no wrong" attitude,and punishment was no where to be seen in his house. Not only that,but his daughter always had the "He did it" line as soon as something happened in the house,and my husband ALWAYS believed her. That bothered me so much. I felt bad for his son,I finally had a really long talk with my husband on how things needed to change and more discipline needed to be enforced in the house. Not only that but his daughter needed to be punished the same as well. I pointed out to him how the house never seemed messy when it was just his son around,but magically became a HUGE mess when she showed up and somehow "HE did it!". He understood and told me rules were gonna be enforced and things would change.

By this time of course we are living together I may add. I get home one night and he tells me he talked to both kids and told them of the changes. His son seemed relieved! His daughter on the other hand cried her eyes out. Her world of doing no wrong was over and she hated it. From then on his daughter stayed away from me. She stopped talking to me and stopped wanting to be around me to watch movies.

As I am new to this site this is just a SMALL portion of what I have to say to vent about my step kids and more happenings. I will get to new blogs later but for now it's time to get off my butt and delete my web history LoL.