As I mentioned before in my first blog. The trouble seemed to start with the "my children do no wrong" attitude my husband had. He also used to have the "Well they are just kids" attitude.

His son I noticed was somewhat of a troublemaker in school. He had been sent to a disciplinary school in the 5th grade. When I noticed how bad his behavior was I mentioned to my husband that teaching him some discipline would have to start now before it got worse. He told me,and I quote "It will never get worse,he knows better than to let it get worse,this will just pass,he's just a kid". I tried explaining how it does not work this way and all it did was cause an argument and result in him not wanting to speak to me for awhile so I simply let it go,forever. I mentioned it no more EVER. Well just a year has passed and it has gotten 10 times worse it seems. His son is now in middle school and 13 yrs old. He has gotten in trouble from day one of Junior High. His last trip to the principals office was because he bit a girl,pulled another girls hair and twisted another girls arm. Like always when asked why he acted out in such bad behavior his answer to it all (which has been his answer from the beginning) is "My mom has passed away". What he doesn't tell the principal or the counselor is that she passed away when he was 5. Not only that but from what my husbands' mother tells me she was rarely around and when she was around she would simply give her son medicine to put him to sleep so she wouldn't have to deal with him much.

He continues to use this line for ALL his bad behavior. Now I'm not saying losing a parent is something to get over easily. But he was 5. I am lucky to meet anyone who can recall much of anything from that age,especially anything from their parents when half the time all they did was get put to sleep. It seems as though he thinks this line will get him off the hook as if someone will say "Oh dear lord poor child,no wonder he acts up he is dealing with the grief of losing his mother".

That line has stopped working because he has used it SO much and has now been sent to another disciplinary school. I tried talking to him on several occasions to let him know losing a mother isn't easy,I know this because I lost mine when I was 14. I admit I acted out for about a year or less but got a hold of myself soon after because I realized that is NOT how my mother raised me to be. Although it wasn't as bad as his behavior to where I needed to be sent away to another school it was just the typical rebellious 14 year old attitude that got me in trouble. Those talks seemed to work for awhile,then nothing seemed to work. I've tried thinking of why he was being this way. Could it be for attention? Not that I know of,since I met his father I made him realize that spending time with him is more important than going out to the bar with friends,so that was fixed. I still can't figure it out. We have tried talking to him about it several times and all he tells us is "I don't know". His bad behavior has also turned into ungratefulness. He thinks money grows on trees. It does not help that his grandparents give him money for anything he wants. He ran out at one point I'm guessing and went for the selling his game system and games option. I think not!! We did not put money into that system and it's games just so he can sell it for $100. He makes rude comments to my husbands' friend on how it's his own fault he can't afford things,when that is not his case at all. When we would do something for him there is NO "thank you" no anything. He just takes it and few days later complains and complains.

When I was growing up we were taught to appreciate all we had,whether it be very little or a lot. My dad did have the money to get us whatever we liked but we were NOT raised to want,want,want. We were raised to earn and appreciate. With my husbands son and daughter they just want,want,want.