So Its been a year since SD13 & SD16 have been to the house. DH goes and picks them up twice a week to go to dinner and occasionally on the weekend DD12 is at her dad's. At first I didnt mind because he took DS5 with him and DD12 was usually at her dad's so I was getting a pretty frequent quiet night at home. As SD16 was approaching the date she recieved her DL she started telling DH she was thinking about coming back to the house. DH and I have been married for 8 years and have had all kids his and mine 50/50 from the beginning. So when DH told me she was thinking of coming back over I decided to send her a text asking her if she would like to go to lunch and she said "NO". So how are you expecting to come back over to our house and have no communication with me? DH dropped a bomb on me last Tuesday....I have an overnight trip this weekend with my daughter for FBLA we will be gone from Saturday am to Sunday evening. So he's sees this as an opportunity to have SD13 & SD16 for an overnight visit. Mind you they have not been to our home for a year and they live 10 mins away!!! The only reason they agreed to come is b/c "I" will be out of town. I told DH over my dead body!!! This is my home too and I think that is very disrepectful and a slap in the face to me. He said he would just pick them up on Saturday and do something for the day then take them back home. I dont believe him and if I come home and find out that they were there it may be the deal breaker. Am I being selfish? I feel like if they cant come over and be apart of our family like we used to then dont come at all. And I feel like a home is more of the womans than it is the mans and I think it is very disrespectful for him to invite them to my home only because I will not be there???