So I spoke with DH about having skids at the house this weekend while I will be out of town and he kinda got it? Said he was just trying to start somewhere. They have told him repeatedly that they will not come as long as I am at the house...(then dont come). So we started talking more and you could tell that it is really starting to weigh on him and I broke down and told him "you know what i've had enough! a year and a half of being blamed for the reason you dont see your kids is too long. Im done being made to feel guilty by you and other family members.