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another great night!

daisy0202's picture

Last night was another good one drama free!

Went home after leaving work early, which I love, did some errands, took out the suit cases, started getting things together. Packed all my stuff. DH called me last night and told me he got his stuff together and forgot so much lol....He packed jeans, some shorts and some shirts. I was like what about underware, socks, shaving stuff, toothbrushes.....He was like OHHHH YAAAAA...LOL OMG it was so nice to just pack me. DH is comming over tonight to bring me his stuff and have our date night. I was surprised we were still doing date night since we will be away the whole weekend and leave tomorrow night. But low and behold we have date night.....GREAT!!!! Didnt get to see him yesterday and yes I missed him but didnt tell him that. I dont want him to use that against me in any way... You know "awww she misses me maybe I can come back"....So nope didnt say a thing except have a great night love you......

SD's aunt told me last night she wrote on FB "this sucks, I hate it here"....Oh poor baby,,,tough shit!!!! LOL

Today have a long day, tomorrow long day, which sucks....At work till 7 and have been here since 7am....YUCK!!!!!!! But the light at the end of the tunnel is.......VACATION!!!!!!! So cant wait!!!! Have a great day everyone...I'll be reading blogs today in spare time although day looks pretty busy... :sick:

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daisy0202's picture

I am a PA...I dont work everyday 12 hours but most days I do....I work in a clinic/hospital....I hate the 12 hour days....yetserday only worked 4 hours...but today and tomorrow...12......YUCK!!!!

daisy0202's picture

mostly I can work up to 50 hours a week....the pay is great...but my life is work....Gotta pay the bills!!! I do alot of hospital rounds...

stepmomto3bioto1's picture

Im so happy to hear you so happy again Daisy!!! I was happy and had to smile for you that your DH is keeping your date nights alive!!! Yay for DH!! Sounds to me like he truly loves date night & looks forward to them!!

smdh's picture

Great news. And if SD hates MIL's so much maybe she'll rethink going away to school if that is her only other option!

daisy0202's picture

OMG that is exactly what I was thinking....I do not think she will be comming back to my house. If I have anything to do with it....

daisy0202's picture

Oh it would but her response to that is her anxiety is to bad to leave...That is what she told her father...

smdh's picture

Well she has to choose between overcoming her anxiety (which by the way, I feel is largely convenient, contrived, and encouraged by your dh) or hating where she lives. She has control over her choices. She just doesn't have control over you anymore. Your house is not one of her options. I find that once a child (almost adult) realizes that their wild card is no longer effective and that someone in the game is no longer negotiating, they are able to make better choices.

I'm famous for telling both dh and Sd "this is not a negotiation". Often are spouses tell these kids that they will "discuss" it or they try to rationalize and talk to them. All the kids here is "there is room to negotiate". If there isn't room to negotiate, I make it known before the conversation. It lowers the antics. You've taken the first step in that. You've let them both know that your home is no longer part of the negotiation. She has to make her choice based on options outside your home. Guess we'll see whether the display of anxiety is greater than her discomfort with MIL.

daisy0202's picture

She used to tell her father she had 10-15 anxiety attacks a day. She has lived full time with us for awhile, I have never seen any and weekends she is with me all the time....

3familiesIn1's picture

Daisy!!! I am so jealous - lol - good for you - I enjoy reading your success. Its like, there is hope out there.

karenemoy's picture

Have fun Daisy - I am rooting for you.

If the loser SD is having that many anxiety attacks why is she not on any medication? Sounds like she is just a manipulating little shit.

I have a SS that does the same thing. He is not allowed to set foot in my house.