Father's day was interesting.

1. SD calls at 8:30pm Saturday night saying she wants to come over for father's day, can SO come pick her up now. Supposedly, BM didn't want to go anywhere sunday, so SD16 asked her dad to meet BM now. Really? SO was frustrated but did it. Plus cleaned her room. Stupid. I stayed out of it. SS and I stayed home, we both ended up asleep by the time they got back.
2. On father's day, SO wanted to go the the movies and grab something out to eat. Ok whatever. I did my FD thing for him already. He got a card and a gift from me and the baby. SS13 sends SO a happy father's day e-card. SD16 tells him Happy FD.
3. Weird behavior from SD16 all day.
- Making comments throughout the day about how she wanted to buy SO something for FD, but she didn't know what. Then saying things like "I will write you something, oh I guess I shouldn't have told you first" "Oh me and SS should cook dinner for you for FD" Yeah neither happened.
- She positions herself as predicted right next to SO as we are walking to and from movie theatre and restuarant. I stay far ahead of all of them. Not playing her game. She sits right next to him at movie theatre. I sit next to SS away from SO. SO likes to feel the baby moving while we are at the movies, but he missed out this time. His problem.
4. SO wanted to go to a discount store to look at stuff for the house. He says "Its FD and that's what I want to do" Sure, I have no arguments. I love shopping for our house. We go in and what does SD do for FD? She picks out a dress and lotion for herself for dad to buy her. She didn't bring her own money from her job. SO gets irritated. He gets me alone in the store and says "I'm starting to thing SD only came up here because she was jealous that SS has been here and I bought him a few things". My response: "well, I don't like to say anything, but I get the same feeling. Anything I can do?" Empathy and half assed help. He'll say no, which he did. BTW SS13 did some home improvement projects in our home, so he received some summer shorts for his work. He also received a new iphone for getting on and maintaining honor roll status at school as well as holding down two extracurriculars (sports and band) all year. Not to mention that he helps me with the trash, groceries, etc when I need it without me asking.
SO then says "SD is already asking what are we doing this week and I know she's going to ask if we are going out to eat every night. Lunch this afternoon was expensive and I'm not doing all that, plus we have a lot to do around the house. She's just going to have to fit in to OUR routine." I look, shrug my shoulders and say well, whatever you think. Even later, he made mention that SS fits our routine and schedule well and we aren't changing it. She'll just sit at home.
5. SO wanted to pick the paint color for babys room while we were out. SD starts looking at colors for her room. Thankfully, SO told her we are picking her paint color and it will be a neutral color. "well that's what I want, so I don't get to pick my paint colors?" SO: No.

Me :jawdrop: wow. Go SO. Then she says, can I pick my bedspread, No one answers her.

All that was nice to hear. The problem is when it comes down to it, will he stick to it or feel guilty and do that extra stuff for her? Doesn't really matter because I don't and I won't so he is always on his own when it comes to her.

SS13 gained brownie points with me. He cracks me up him to SD16 " Me and helena have a routine during the week and we aren't changing it because you want to sleep until 1 in the afternoon."

This is why I remain disengaged from SD16. However, its a very nice surprise that having SS13 at our home work is working to my advantage in having SO see what SD is really like. SD= me me me me me