We did not do it because of cost but basically you'd have to petition the court in her area to domesticate your order. Then you'd have to petition the court to enforce the order. This will never happen in time for your trip.

Your DH needs to come to grips with the reality that his son is more than likely lost to him and If he doesn't get his head out of his ass, he will lose the family he has left. How you aren't resentful now, I have no idea. 

I don't think they have those here - the police just were hands off about everything.  Can't enforce civil orders.

My DH was pretty good about not getting mopey about SS, though he had his moments.  It's part of dealing with alienation.  It's a horrible loss and you just feel so powerless and helpless. 

If he pushes through, he will be OK - but he has to not get caught up in believing BM's lies about him, or thinking he's failed SS, or anything like that.

I think your walk down memory lane on that other blog reminded you that you made huge concessions for SS and BM regarding your wedding and now it is a major regret.

Very understandably, you are worried this cruise will have the same effect. You can.not. control. this. Stop bending over backwards to "help" DH with his relationship with his kid. You didn't break it. You can't fix it. The only thing your efforts will bring you is regret and resentment. (((Hugs)))

who got a Writ of Assistance when her ex husband refused to return their twin three year olds after a visitation. The whole process was pretty simple...she took her evidence to an ex parte walk in hearing and within two hours she had the boys. Her ex chose not to take visitation with them again (they are 11 now) although she made them available. The Sheriff added when he served the Writ that if they had to come again with a Writ they would arrest her ex on custodial interference charges, which they would rarely do but Writ's cost the police and courts time and money. 

I probably wouldn't do it for a vacation. That seems like a lot of hassle for a vacation. In the case of my friend her ex was keeping the children from her when she had been the primary parent their entire lives and they were very young. This was during his summer visitation and he had had them for five weeks which turned into seven and he had refused to show up for her weekend visits during that time. He also took one of them on a trip and left the other one with his elderly mother. It was a shit show. With a teen? I would eat the cost and deal with the rest in regular family court with a demand that mom pay for the lost trip money. 

If BM doesn't send SS for his court ordered visitation that is considered contempt.  I would push for her to pay all court ordered fees, lawyer fees, whatever money was lost on ss's portion of the trip and make up parenting time.  Maybe BM will even spend time in jail.  If you can get the Writ then great, if not push for contempt.  Even if you do get the writ push for contempt because of all the trouble and costs incurred.  

One. Why would you want SS on a trip he doesn’t want to go on? Two. Why do you want your trip destroyed, because SS will do anything to destroy it.?  Three. How are you going to have fun dealing with SS ? Four. Your DH needs a reality check.  Your are spend mort time and money on SS antics then planning fun.  Just stop dealing with it. I would rather lose the plane fair and cruise money and have fun and make good memories 

Maybe look at it a different way, the valuable lesson that SS will learn out of this is that life will go on without him.

You guys will go have fun, have a good time and he gets to sit at home with BM while she clutches her pearls and has the vapors over his next ailment.

Any time DH makes a boo-boo face and bemoans SS not being there, give him a huge hug and tell him "we are so lucky to have the life we have and SS is going to regret this when he gets older and realizes how much he missed out on." then have a drink and move on.

I can't help with an info on a writ - but in reply to all the above who say to just give up, I can say sometimes it works.  My SD was alienated for a short time.  She got into the  home of BM and her family who cut off all communication.  Lies were told, pressure was applied and everyone here would likely have said, oh well, she's a teen, you've lost her.

But we persisted, and just like you're hoping (and no guarantee it will work for you!!!!), the very second she saw her Dad and I again for the first time, it was like she came out of the poison.  She hugged us both, apologized profusely, and never looked back.  And in our case, never looked back meant that she became the young lady she had always been, but now it was BMs family she didn't speak to for a short while.  She explained all of the PAS she had heard, and the pressure she was under, and actually seemed to marvel at herself for believing things that she had actual facts to prove were complely untrue.  After a short while of not speaking to BMs family we initiated some reunification and now they have a great relationship.  And SD doesn't feel torn to cut off anyone.  She had succumbed to the PAS, and when she saw us all the truth and the good came back.  Thank heavens!

So, no.  It may not be the same for you. But I understand the need to try.  And yes.  I would get a writ.  I would have a Sheriff haul his PAS'd butt out of her house and onto a plane and onto that ship where for one week he can't drink the koolaid.  And he may be a turd.  Figure out how to deal with that so that your trip isn't ruined.  Or he may just come around.  Or he may come around long enough for the trip, and then never speak to you all again.  But you will have done everything in your power to try.  There's no guarantee he won't hate you more for having the police drag him out.  But there's a slim chance that he may, when confronted with the reality of his own two eyes, realize he's been duped.

Prayers and crossed fingers for you all.

That he allowed to go on the trip by BM.  Most cruise lines want this because of kidnapping. Cruise line do not want to get involved in legal thing and winding up in court, costing them money 

I will not vacation with DH & skids. I told him I cant. I will feel trapped. We did a weekend to a water park near my son's house with the little ones. SS12 (maybe 9 at the time) was on the ipad at 1am. I couldnt sleep. I kept waking DH to do something about it. He shouldnt be on ipad watching videos at 1 am. Arguments at 1 in the morning over ipad. He waits for DH to fall back asleep and then he sneaks the phone off the night stand. Now its almost 2 am and I have to wake up DH again. Now there is crying and DH has to sleep with the kids to stop the crying. Yay vacation!

I almost called my son to pick me up or Uber'd to him but it was late & i didn't want to bother him & his girlfriend on a Sat nite. 

This kind of behavior does not fly anymore and the wicked step mother has taken over but I dont want to be trapped somewhere with the skids so he can vaca with them on his own.

I vacation with my bio son 22.