BM has been texting both SSs since Friday evening to plan their vacation. She texted them on Friday night to show them the “treehouse” that sleeps four that they plan to stuff seven people in for three days. Then she texted them again on Saturday to tell them all the things they plan to do while there. Then this morning she texted them to “ask” if she should email the parents of the friends who they want to come with them. DH only has SSs four days a month, why is it that BM always has “urgent” matters to text them about during those four days. And yes, I know the answer is PAS on her part and her excessive neediness. I should also point out that this is the same woman who leaves both of these boys home alone 2-3 evenings a week, coming home after 11pm, so she and her DH can go to the casino, so it’s not as if she is in constant contact with her children when she has them. And yes, I know we could ban the phones from our house and DH did, but he’s a wimp and he let them come back to our house.

In addition to texting SSs, BM has also sent a flurry of texts to DH. She started by telling him that he could pick up SSs early if he wanted. He ignored that, but then foolishly asked her “is overly-dramatic SS still grounded?” BM claimed he was grounded after he called DH over an issue at school. This question lead to a barrage of texts over how DH could do whatever he wanted in his house. To which DH replied simply that he wanted to have a united front over punishment, leading to another barrage of texts over how DH should just let BM be the bad guy because the SS in question really doesn’t want to see DH but BM is trying to make him want to see DH, etc. DH ignores most of these texts. BM has sent pages of texts to DH’s 2 single line replies. Then BM sends a text saying that her lawyer said that SSs need counseling immediately to “deal with little issues that keep popping up” and  if DH wouldn’t even consider the counselors she sent before the mediation she can bring that up in court later. This is all coming from BM who initially demanded a mediation back in October, but whose lawyer has still not scheduled the mediation with DH’s lawyer. Also, not sure how BM sees her lawyer as such an expert in child counseling. The real issue is that BM wants to mediate less time with DH and needs evidence to do that and her lawyer probably told her that she needs a counselor to say that it’s in SSs best interest not to see DH. That SS was fine all weekend. Amazingly there was no drama, so he is not “traumatized” by seeing DH, as BM has claimed.

Then yesterday, BM sent DH the same text message twice “offering” to buy a basketball hoop for our house because SSs are “bored” when they are with us. DH said no last year and the answer is still no. There is a basketball court within walking distance of our house and it is rarely in use. Also, BM doesn’t need to meddle in what goes on at our house. I think she is just trying to use that as “evidence” that DH doesn’t reply to her messages. 

All of her texts have been sent to DH’s lawyer.