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Submitted by Trying to Stepmom on Sun, 09/01/2019 - 11:04am

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Blended Family Issues

Not sure if this is the right forum for this, but anyway...

I was thinking about getting professional family photos done for the first time. I’m pregnant with our 2nd child and thought it would be nice (family/maternity). 

The only thing I’m wondering is whether to have SD13 join in the fun. She’s so wishy-washy with things and I’m afraid if we made her do it, she’d make a fuss. But I’m also worried that she’d grump about the photos even if she chose not to participate. I sent out a family Christmas card a few years ago and made sure she was included. I had to hastily take her photo before BM picked her up one morning and it was a little bit of a struggle trying to get her to look nice for the photo. I’ll also add that we have her EOWE and a couple days a week. 

What do you guys do? Any have family photos done with or without skids?

ITB2012's picture

Submitted by ITB2012 on Sun, 09/01/2019 - 11:45am

so bases are covered: all of us, bio parents with their bio kids, and all kids (no parents). It works and then we have pics for what we want/need. 

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Sun, 09/01/2019 - 9:29pm

When I was a kid I HATED family pictures and we had a "normal" family. Being grumpy about them is normal for people. Yeah it sucks but what if she wasn't your stepchild but you're first biochild. Sure you can say YOUR kid wouldn't act that way but they could. Sure its fine to ask her but I wouldn't just exclude her. If she gives you BS while getting them done then let dad handle it and get some extra speical ones of just you, your oldest, and the baby belly. Then you can get some of just you, dad, and belly.

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Submitted by Trying to Stepmom on Sun, 09/01/2019 - 9:51pm

I know bio kids can be turds about family pictures too. 

My friend is a photographer and has done some great family photos for my sister and her family. And my oldest SD just got some done with her family (and her baby bump). I just thought it would be nice. 

Thanks for the advice. 

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Submitted by shellpell on Sun, 09/01/2019 - 9:34pm

For my maternity photos, I just had my toddler and DH in them, no SS11. My belly, my babies.

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Submitted by shamds on Mon, 09/02/2019 - 1:22am

Ss always screws up the pics by posing badly or being dressed crap clothes and his aunts always tell him how he screws up the pics. Sd has a habit of posing with the peace sign when we are in formal wear like a wedding etc in a formal setting and it screws up the pics. So I prefer just a pic of my kids with hubby alone and often hubby wants one too.

he doesn’t like people screwing up pics acting all gangsta with all their hand signs...

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 09/02/2019 - 8:25am

I think when it comes to pictures with blended families, no matter what you do, you probably should have done it differently! There is no winning.

DH and I naturally get certain poses with certain people. We will do some all together, some with him and his, me with mine, all the kids, the bio siblings (SS's together, my bios together), me with SS's, DH with my bios, etc.

We take a ton and people are always moving in and out so no one is left out, then we just buy the best ones. 

I think you should include SD but also hav some shots without her.

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Submitted by Harry on Mon, 09/02/2019 - 10:22am

What pictures you want.  Then take throwaway photos of with SD. With SD and her father, SD with the family.