STBXH and I have a few more loose ends to tie up. Transferring a car is one of them. I texted him to find out a detail about doing that.. he snapped and said "I don't have time for that right now. BM is dropping kids off for a week in two hours and I have no idea what i'm going to do. I'll have to deal with the car later."

For background: About 1.5 months ago BM all of a sudden up and moved 1.5 hours away to be closer to her husbands family. BM has limited support where she lives and her husband works 3 weeks out of town at a time then 1 -2 weeks off. STBXH has essentially no family support and doesn't have any solid babysitters or anyone he would trsut to watch his kids (he has some issues with being overprotective as well)

Well, i couldn't help it. I asked why he was taking the kids for a week. (the usual is EOWE) STBXH tells me BM has nobody to watch them and she has to go out of town to train for work for a week. I didn't ask any other questions.. it wasn't worth it. So somehow throughout the day today BM decided she has no formal plans for her kids so she is dropping them off with stbxh for a week. So now these kids are missing a week of school because of her poor planning.. STBXH is going to miss a week of work because of his inability to say no to BM.

STBXH even said to me, "I know you're glad this isn't your problem anymore". I simply said, "That never would have been my problem. I wouldnt be the one to call off work. I just always hated seeing you and those kids be treated like shit all the time." I probably shouldn't have said it. I know it stings for him, but its true. BM walks all over STBXH. Those kids are thrown around and have no consistency, no structure, no discipline. They both have learning disabilities, one is in special education, and the other is constantly in trouble for fighting and biting. Its just constant chaos. Its BMs fault for doing it. its STBXHs fault for not doing something to fix it.

I am glad I am not so closely involved.. I look forward to the day that I don't even have to hear about it anymore and i'm not even tempted to ask questions.